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User Topic: Emotionless?
changedibr
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How to wake up? How to show you care? How to show you love your bs?

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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, have you asked your bs this? What did she say?

Do that.

Then read. Then do IC. Then read. Then do IC. Then try MC.

Then ask you BS again.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1272 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
hardlessons
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do you want to wake up?

Early in this process you find that love, feelings, thoughts come from wrong/bad places so step 1 is realizing that. Which is why I asked the question, why do YOU want to wake up?


Me WH
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3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 878 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
floridaredman
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


How to show you care? How to show you love your bs?

Have you always had problems doing these before your affair?


The simplest thing can be the hardest thing to do....FRM

Posts: 2472 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Florida
changedibr
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Default  Posted: 3:35 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife wants me to wake up per say.

Yes I guess your right I should do what my bs says.

Before A I didn't have these problems.


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floridaredman
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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A lot of times as WS's we rewrite marital history. We attach things to our spouses negatively to justify our infidelity.
I don't knowif you did this or not, but I did this with my wife. I made her into a monster when I was the one doing monstrous things.

Her love is shown by giving you a chance to reconcile. That's a gift..not a given.
It would be wise to see her for what she can show other than what you thought or felt she wasn't.


The simplest thing can be the hardest thing to do....FRM

Posts: 2472 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Florida
hardlessons
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife wants me to wake up per say.

If you are doing this for anyone but yourself you wont wake up.

Yes I guess your right I should do what my bs says.

No one said that to you so where is that coming from? You obviously don't always do as your told so why would you now?


Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 878 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
SandAway
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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before A I didn't have these problems.

Really? That is because you were still living a lie and life was good for you.

You are coming and going so quick with questions and short responses and not really answering questions, just starting new threads.

You do know that there is no quick fix to all of this.

Does you wife know about SI?


fWW
BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people


Posts: 431 | Registered: Dec 2012
BostonGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read "The Emotionally Unavailable Man" by Patti Henry and "Why Can't I Get Through To You" by Terry Real. Those will get you started. Both of you should read them.


It'll all be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not the end.

Posts: 133 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Boston
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