I'm having break-up angst, though, and am already cringing in anticipation of awkward encounters, as I know I will see him again. In fact, probably a couple times a month, as he works in the same very small building as my IC and they have a shared waiting area.
Obviously, my DD's well-being is my primary concern, but I am feeling a little stress about the questioning looks I anticipate seeing. As if I don't already have enough stress and worry in my life ....
Saying that, I have family members that have had to continue seeing a Dr in their medium sized town after seeking treatment from a large university hospital 1.5 hours away, against the wishes of the hometown Dr. In each of those cases, the hometown Dr may have been a little irritated at first, but in the long term was very professional.
So just be calm and professional. Explain that you want to try something different with DD. I am sure the Dr has heard that type of thing before.
[This message edited by Dreamboat at 11:56 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)]
How about: I feel like DD might have something else going on than what we've been looking at. Can we talk about another approach to her condition? Is there another specialist you can recommend that could help us approach this from another angle? I'm getting concerned about (continuing symptoms) - what do you recommend?
You know, be a team with him to help your daughter. If he tries to keep you on the same path that's not working, you can have the awkward break up, but until them why not see if you can get him to help you to find a better solution?
You pay your Dr's to perform services for you, just like paying the mechanic to fix your car. If you take your car to Joe's fix it, with a issue, and Joe says I can try, but not make any guarantees, but it will cost you. You give it a whirl. If Joe doesn't get it fixed, do you back to Joe and say can you try doing the same thing you did before even though it didn't work?
I would hope not.
For the same reason you should not continue to see a Dr just because you have seen him before, esp if he has not been effective in treating the issue you are seeing him for.
A Good Dr will always welcome someone else a shot at fixing a problem they cannot solve. A BAD or inCompetent Dr may react poorly. If they do, the just know that you are making the right choice.
Many many many Drs esp Specialists are very very busy, and overworked already, and losing one patient for whatever reason will not make a hill of beans difference to them.
He will know that you are switching when you sign a ROI anyway.
The cool thing to do, is send him a card, saying thank you for all you have done, we still seem to be struggling with making progress in treating X, therefore we are going to try a different approach. Please know that I will come back to you if we are unsuccessful with this new approach.
The MD will respect you, and you will not have burned any bridges.