As far as healing and being able to again, well I had horrible mind movies any time we did it with me facing away from him, I started to trigger even if it were face to face. Someone here reccommended I suggest some time where it was all about me....
Wow what a result. I told him, I needed him to focus on me, and not his needs, and I needed to focus solely on the physcial aspect of it. He went along with it. End Mind movies. For a good long while I had to recieve before being able to go all the way with him. So I guess I won on that front.
As you go through R, and see your spouse returning to the person they were, and loosing the fog it becomes much easier to enjoy it again. Or it was for me.
Long after I had this realization, my W said that the first few touches were amazing, but after that she wished the sex with ow was as good as it was with me.
Except for the kisses. The kisses were always special.
Personally I'm with Wonderboy on deal breakers - you never really know what you'll do until you face one.
At the same time, I have absolutely no quarrel with any BS who is grateful something didn't happen. No matter what, the stuff that did happen is devastating enough.
[This message edited by sisoon at 3:14 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]
He was "going down" on MOW1 morning, noon and night. I know because I got to read blow by blow details!
I haven't forgotten that oral doesn't count as cheating by the way...
I can't kiss her now at all. And every time we have sex I think about this. I can't stand it.
I can't kiss her now at all. And every time we have sex I think about this.
you are not alone, 2m2q.
The only funny thing is that he said she tried and he had teeth scrape marks Guess she wasn't that good at it.
Either way it makes me sick to think he went down on her and then might have came home and kissed me