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User Topic: Filed and about to serve but baby in intensive care
careerlady
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Frustrated  Posted: 1:25 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I''m beside myself typing from the ICU. The baby fell out of the bed when I went to go rinse my burning eye out real quick, and after a few minutes of crying he HAD A SEIZURE. I called 911 and they took forever to come, he was out of it for like 20 minutes after a 3 minutes seizure. He ended up getting a CT scan than showed blood on the brain (subdural hematoma). Fortunately he doesn''t need surgery but as part of the work up he got his eyes checked and he has retinal hemorrhages!

so now they think he was SHAKEN and CPS and a forensic pediatrician will be getting involved!!! It''s pretty much just me, hubby and the nanny caring for him and I can''t imagine either of them doing anything like it must be a mistake. Even though WS has made mistakes I''d still blame the nanny before him, he''s been nothing but a gentle doting dad

Everything is messed up right now. I filed for divorce yesterday and was going to have WS served Monday but I can''t do that now. We''re both worried sick and he''s been wonderful. Plus he''ll for sure challenge my full custody after this mistake...

Anyway prayers please!

[This message edited by careerlady at 1:26 AM, May 4th, 2013 (Saturday)]


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 935 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
5454real
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. Strength, prayers, whatever I've got that you need is on the way!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2578 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:41 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prays for that sweet boy.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16451 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Coraline
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I know this is a nightmare, but it's really just bad luck if all of that is from a fall from the bed. Almost everyone will have a baby fall off the bed at some point or another, and rarely so they get seriously injured. Yes, it's terrible that he got hurt so badly, but falling off the bed is not a reflection on your parenting or a reason you should lose custody of your child. It happens every day.


Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 2:28 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. WH and I were cuddling at his bedside until he left to get stuff from home for us. Now I'm so conflicted as to whether to serve this man....


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 935 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Take2
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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How horrible and overwhelming! Prayers being sent for your precious boy!

Whenever anything medical comes up I always go to the web, (knowledge is power). Sending you a pm if you are interested.

((careerlady)) and more prayers.

eta: putting off serving him isn't unreasonable under the circumstances. One crisis at a time.

[This message edited by Take2 at 5:37 AM, May 4th (Saturday)]


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
macakipa
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh careerlady, I am so sorry! Prayers and strength coming your way. (((hugs)))


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

Posts: 952 | Registered: Oct 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((careerlady))))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First of all hugs to you and your baby.

I would absolutely hold off serving him. This may get very legally complicated for a while and you don't need any distractions right now. As a former pediatric health care worker, if there is even a suspicion of abuse they will tear apart your life to see if there is anything that could have lead to this.


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1231 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you strength! Hope your little one is doing better very soon.

Put all the rest to the back of your mind right now and focus on your little man.

Thinking of you careerlady!


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
foxglove
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((careerlady)))

I'm so sorry. Sending lots of strength and good thoughts your way.


Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

Posts: 1451 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Northern Michigan
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my goodness. Prayers going out for your sweet boy. I'm so sorry that this has happened. I have a 7 month old DS and he rolled off the couch the other day and hit his head on the coffee table. Fortunately, he only cried for a few seconds so I knew he was okay. I think it scared him more than anything, but of course this stuff has happened to all of us mothers at one time or another. It's just so rare for them to be hurt so badly.

Do they think they he had some type of trauma before rolling off the bed? Is that why they are contacting CPS? I'm so, so sorry. Glad to know that your WS is at least there for you right now.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry- what a scary situation.

They're saying the fall doesn't explain his injuries? Is there any way the most current OW has been around baby?


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

❣I hope my issues don't discourage ur healing. I've buried a lot & my WH hasn't done his part in R❣


Posts: 11002 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Limbo
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And feel free to PM me, my cousin went through a similar situation a couple of years ago. It all turned out well, but it was an awful couple of weeks.

Again, hope your son is doing well and try, try to remember everyone is doing their best for your son.


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1231 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((career & baby)))

I'm sorry. Sending prayers.


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Foolme1
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((careerlady)))


BGF-me (31)-devoted girlfriend
xBF-him (30)-manipulative cheater
One beautiful dd. 14 years together (off and on). Married for 8 years, divorced, then "dating" for 3 more years.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((baby boy))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for your baby.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((HUGS))))))))


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 999 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, May 4th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((careerlady and baby)))))

sending thoughts, prayers and mojo your way

def put off serving him now....even if you decide you still want to, now is not the time...as someone else said...one crisis at a time if you can help it

concentrate on your precious child....

and i am sure cps will get to bottom of whatever has or has not happened...don 't think about that right now...just concentrate on the baby and his getting well....and cooperate with whatever info they need...


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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