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User Topic: Filed and about to serve but baby in intensive care
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, May 6th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry to hear. Put off filing and focus on your baby. And please let us know how things are going. Sending hugs and prayers.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, May 6th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any updates on your baby? I really hope he is going to be okay.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 879 | Registered: Mar 2013
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, May 6th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((careerlady & baby)))


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for your support all!

Baby is doing great he's his usual happy self. Just not getting as much sleep in the ICU. The MRI done today showed multiple areas of bleeding in the brain and they think he was shaken violently within the last week! (. WS was put of town for 2 weeks so that leaves just me and the nanny. I am SICK over this and when my son gets discharged tomorrow it will be without me cause they think I could have done it!!!!

I can't see myself serving WS anytime soon....


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
JennasMom
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Default  Posted: 1:21 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Careerlady))))

Keeping you and your son in my prayers. I am so, so sorry and I can't even imagine the pain you must be in. Please be strong, your son needs you.


Me: fWW/BW, 29, EA
Him: WH, 30 (whatnow999), Multiple PAs
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
Kids: DD, 4 and DS, 6 Wks

Posts: 151 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Midwest
landabear
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

careerlady, I know that right now you have to "mind your ps and qs" with social services, but make sure that the doctors at the hospital and the baby's pediatrician are checking for other causes:

http://www.npr.org/2011/06/29/137471992/rethinking-shaken-baby-syndrome

Something as simple as a treatable clotting disorder could be to blame, not you or the nanny.


BS
Divorced: March 2006
Married to a wonderful, FAITHFUL man: October 2009

Posts: 740 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Midwest
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks yes they drew a ton of blood and are checking for every disorder they can think of. So far all negative. Also the MRI should show multiple bleeds of different ages if it's a clotting disorder, these were all the same age. We are also going to be seen by a forensic pediatrician. I was looking at all type of interpretations when it was just the retina but now it's looking bad (


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you and your baby today.

(((((careerlady)))))


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2108 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
BlueWoman
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Careerlady))) I can't even imagine. Huge, huge hugs.


Me: BS, 37
Many DDs over the last half of the marriage. He probably cheated all along.
Divorce is underway.

Posts: 142 | Registered: Sep 2012
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So now the MRI's age has cleared WS and the case worker is going to recommend he get custody while I move out and get a permanent marr on record with CPS. Court tomorrow will decide who custody goes to and my visitation rights. They said it could be as little as an hour a week and could take months to be able to move back in! I am freaking out right now and would rather rugsweep for the rest of my life and be with WS than lose my son. This is a nightmare, life was great and it disintegrated in a matter of 3 weeks.


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
sammie
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Default  Posted: 2:03 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WHAT???????????????

The nanny!!!! WHAT ABOUT THE NANNY???

Omg, I cannot believe this...


If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you.
Never give more of yourself than you are getting back.

"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." ~Ernest Hemingway


Posts: 5818 | Registered: Aug 2005 | From: Australia
summerain
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Default  Posted: 2:51 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it's okay to post here

I am so sorry. Have you looked into a lawyer?

[This message edited by lauren123 at 2:52 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)]


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 3:21 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((careerlady)))


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2746 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((careerlady))))))))))

Sending prayers your way.

Hugs, too.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5017 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have they questioned the nanny yet? Or checked her background? Why are they assuming YOU did it?


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lawyer....Lawyer NOW....fight this, if you know you didnt do it fight it with all your motherly might.

This is crazy!

I am so sorry for you right now...I am sending you strength to fight for your baby....


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit

Posts: 1717 | Registered: Sep 2012
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. Yeah the police are talking to the nanny but CPS says their focus is on the parents. So since I was the responsible parent because I l either hurt him or left him with someone who hurt him I'm liable. There's no burden of proof for them.

I have a lawyer and will be fighting with all I've got


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, My hope is the Nanny is found guilty by the police, clearing you of all wrongdoing, that you are allowed to be with your son and that your sweet baby boy is able to heal and not have any issues or complications. You are in my prayers and thoughts, my mother's heart is just breaking for you, I don't know how you are managing to keep from tearing the Nanny up with your bare hands, I don't know that I would be able to be restrained at all.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 865 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((careerlady))))

I'm so sorry you are being accused of this - I can't even imagine.


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3229 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you and your little one today, and wishing you strength, peace, prayers, and good MoJo.

(((((CareerLady))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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