I'm so quick to get pissed at WH and the first thought that comes yo mind is to throw in the towel.
He is just so damn clueless sometimes and I'm convinced there are some things that he will never get.
He's done a lot of work on himself, I give him credit for that. Every time I have to remind him about a boundary I just feel like I'm going to live the rest of my life with man that is always going to have these issues.
I've decided against D for many reasons but I just have days that I am so tired of this crap.
It boils down to the fact that I don't trust him. So when he's at the store longer than he should be I get suspicious or just trigger. He got pissy with me today and sent me pictures of where he was. I've never asked for that because I shouldn't have to.
I guess my tolerance level is at zero. I'm curious how many this far out feel this way.
The bottom line is that only you can answer this. Do you have more time to wait it out, or are things getting dire?
Sending hugs. (((renee21)))
2 yrs out this week.
Am really trying to keep this family together, but am sad much of the time & DAILY question my decision to stay. It doesn't help that OW still works in the same building, altho I am choosing to believe that he avoids her.
WH has made some baby steps, but I don't think he wants to do any more work---he joined SI & came on a couple of times, & doesn't want to come back (because "all they talk about is infidelity" & he wants to move on!); he doesn't want to read , he is tired of talking about it. He is dying to quit MC, but I think we have barely gotten started.
I can't force him to do any of those things.
Of course, I will never trust him 100% again.
so when he's at the store longer than he should be I get suspicious or just trigger.
He is totally clueless.
Good luck with this frustrating issue. (((renee)))
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.
No, things aren't dire, I'm just tired and get frustrated.
I've been dealing with infidelity for about 10 yes now. Granted, he was diagnosed as SA at last DDay. That's when the real work started and he really started to grasp whathe had done to all of us.
Its one big complicated ball, especially with an OC as well.
The workbooks sound like a good idea. He likes to read and would probably be interested.
Thanks again. I wish I never needed this place but I'm so glad its here.