Real quick, so I don't forget: Inexpensive, plain wedding bands can be purchased for her to wear while working. She can also agree to only service female clients.
Ok. So. Stay or Go. Good news is that you don't have to decide anything right this second. What you DO need, though, is to know that you are dealing with the truth. Her story seems *off* to me, and I'm not so sure that she's been completely honest with you....and I'm not talking about piddly little details such as 3x or 5x.....her behavior just seems too extreme for this to have been either so intense so quickly or her first time. Maybe her story is completely true, but maybe it isn't.
I think that a poly is in order in your situation. Your marriage is too new.....I can assure you that you do not want it to begin on a foundation of lies because that will, almost definitely, lead to a lifetime's worth of cheating behavior on your WW's part.
I know that some posters have thrown out some scenarios that probably seem pretty *out there* to you, but right now you really don't know what you are dealing with. And there is NOTHING worse than believing that you *know* everything and putting a bunch of energy into turning yourself into a pretzel being the BEST SPOUSE EV-AH.....only to find out that there was *more* to the cheating story. A Lot More. Knowing that you were putting *your all* into the marriage while your WS, who really *deserved* to be thrown out on their ass, continued to lie to you is a real kick in the head.
She told me that she never expected that I loved her enough to stay after being put through so much hell and that when she saw how genuinely I really did love her, a switch flipped in her mind that I really DIDN'T consider her beneath me as she had thought for years.
This is dangerous territory for you. Very, very dangerous. It is way too easy to get *drawn in* to this and lose your focus. That quote is technically a form of emotional blackmail with a big dose of manipulation thrown in. Do you see how that statement can very subtly make you feel that you need to *prove* your love to her? That you can be the bigger man because she is so *in awe* that you stuck with her through all of the hell?
My Dday was 6/08 (at that time we had been M almost 16 yrs). Almost immediately, Sultan revealed that he was convinced that I was always going to leave him someday....even though I had NEVER given him any indication of the sort. The problem was, though, that he NEVER progressed from there and he never stopped his self-defeating, prophecy-fulfilling behaviors. So I'm divorcing him. He *got* what he claimed to NOT *want*.
So give your WW a *small* taste of the cookie for sharing her 'fear' with you....but reserve the whole batch until she FIXES that twisty-thinking. Identifying an issue is only a very small cog in the infidelity clean-up process. Fixing the issue is where the rubber meets the road.
Oh, and there will always be family and friends that tell you to ditch the b*tch. However, it's not typical for that opinion to come from almost EVERYONE in your circle. Why is it that the majority of your circle is telling you to move on? What are they *seeing* that you aren't?"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.