While this is taking place he is constantly telling me he wants me to move back in and that he can't live without me. We are currently living apart because he has a pill addiction and I was tired of putting up with the emotional abuse. He is seeking help for the addiction, we just have to get him on wait list.
This is not our first issue of cheating. A little over a year ago he was sexting, calling, and going to see his ex. We were separated through one of these occurrences but he was trying to win me back then as well.
We will be going to counseling but I really am not sure I can get over this second happening. I am so upset and hurt. I've done so much for him, I'm raising our son and am currently 3 months pregnant. I just don't know what to do. It seems like every time we have an issue he runs to someone else.
17 month old son.
3 months pregnant.
D-Day : 10/2011 - texting ex
D-day 2: 2/2012 -EA with ex
D-Day 3: 3/17/2012 - EA maybe PA w/ ex
D-Day 4: 4/2013 - texting, calling, hanging out w/ OW
I think that was the biggest hurdle for me, the first few months I kept thinking he isn't this person, we can work thru this, we can fix this but his actions were clearly showing me he intended to continue affairs, but I so desperately wanted to believe his words, I tried to convince myself his words were the truth...they weren't and it was pointless. When I figured that out I knew my choices were Stay married and fix the marriage together or get divorced it was be lied to by a husband that is having affairs forever or get divorced. Those were the only choices I had.
So look very closely at his actions, they are the truth. If his actions show you lies and affairs your choice is to agree to be lied to and cheated on or leave.
mine begged me to come home too and i did and he just f*cked it up
btw mine was a substance abuser as well -- alcohol and weed and a couple other things on a couple of occasions that i knew of
addicts tend to lie to begin with -- add to that them being up to no good and its a friggin' festival of lies, lies, lies
something to consider --- you with his/yours/your family's best interest at heart want him to stop doing drugs (and/or drinking)... makes you a buzzkill and no fun
meanwhile these b*tches he's gone off with are prob using with him -- so easy to 'run to someone else' who will get high/drunk with him
take care of you - take care of your child and unborn child... put yourself first
i know i know it sucks - we all here know how much it sucks...
i wish you the best and you have every right to not 'get over it' if that's how you feel...
hugs to u
I just don't know if I can risk being hurt like this again. I'm still VERY upset.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum