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User Topic: T/J ...withdrawal
etaoin
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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread is just what I needed today. I'm doing everything one is supposed to do, and I could not understand why I have been feeling so crushed after 4 1/2 months. I have to keep telling myself that I miss the feelings and not the person.

I had no idea how hard this was going to be. I told my C recently that I do believe it would be easier to D. R is the difficult path.

Thank you for the thoughtful posts.

Does anyone think it would be a good idea to volunteer to my BW when I pine for my AP? Or will that do harm? It does not seem like a burden I should put on another.


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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Eta,
Read OctoberMest's post in this thread and read uncertainone's thread, "What if it's rejection?"

I think honestly communicating your feelings brings you closer together, but making sure you understand what you are feeling first can help you avoid unnecessarily hurting your BS further.

Keep up the mental NC and these feelings diminish over time.


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D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1411 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
20WrongsVs1
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, May 16th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know deep down I was addicted to the high of how I felt, rather than the AP himself, but I really wanted the high back.

BH and I were talking this morning, that when I was shooting up "the A drug," the high outranked my husband and family. Totally true, and shamefully hurtful--during the A, and even after DD.

And I'm definitely in withdrawal. It has helped us to talk about the A in the context of an addiction.


fWW: 42
BH: 52
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

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