Tonight I was told that I can never apologize enough for what I did and how this has affected my H.I agree. I don't think a person who cheated can ever apologize enough, or make it 'better' by apologizing.
Okay...we can't change that. What to do? Acceptance I guess is the only choice.
A WS has to accept that whatever is said will not make up for terrible choices. I deal with that by being the best ME I can be, every day. By continuing to show humility and remorse and love towards my BH, every day. (It's our new normal!)
For the BS, it's a scar that never goes away. Sometimes it's a dealbreaker. You've been in R for awhile now, has your BH told you it's a dealbreaker?
If not, his telling you this is him communicating his feelings. Trying to convey to you the pain he is feeling. That's okay, that's honest and authentic communication.
Keep talking to each other .Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."