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User Topic: I Signed an Answer and Counter Petition
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And had my L file my case with the Court Administrator! I now have a date for ENE.

I recieved paper work back in Oct and have had only one question from his L since then. We were doing informal discovery and it took him over 3 months to get his financial paperwork to me. Supposedly his L is working on a settlement proposal. I'm done waiting!

We've done in house seperation since last July. It is HELL. I've had the chance to stay with a friend for a few weeks. It has been such a stress reliever to not be in the house with "opposing". I don't see myself ever living in the house again.

In all these months I've been NC and it's taken me this long to get up the courage to finally file. I realized last night that I already lost everything that was important to me. My marriage is over, my home is no longer my home. My kids have all moved out of state (we all get along fine they needed to be away from the situtation). I've been so afraid of the what ifs...I still don't know how this will play out I just know that I can't keep living like this.

I've been very calm and since I've been out of the house right now I'm not fearful of what he'll do to me. I'm not sure how I'll feel when I have to attend court and see him. I'm ready to have this done and over. I've been stuck in limbo waiting for him to do something! I'm ready to take some control and get this mess sorted out so I can move on to my NB! Wish me luck.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Elaine - I have to send you a hug.
I think you and I are in the same exact place right now - with the exception that we have been separated for almost 2 years. Just finished up the informal discoveries.... well I had mine done 2 months ago. He just did his.

We have our first court appearance Thursday - I'm with you. I want this DONE and over with!!

Wishing you luck!!!


Everyday is a blank canvas, and only you hold the brush.
30y M traded in for a POM (pathetic Old Maid 46, 2 kids from different dads. never married)
S 11/11, D final 1/14.

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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*hugs*


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 636 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
dmari
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Default  Posted: 3:27 AM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm ready to have this done and over. I've been stuck in limbo waiting for him to do something! I'm ready to take some control and get this mess sorted out so I can move on to my NB! Wish me luck.
Sounds good Elaine2012!! The "what if's" are scary when you first take that step into the unknown but you know, it's going to be better than what it is now. You've already started your journey ... keep moving forward!! Good Luck!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck Elaine! I am glad that you have reached a point where you feel ready to move to the next level


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, May 17th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jayne Doe thank you for the support. I can't believe I can almost say it's been a year! How did it go in court?

movingforward13 thanks for the hug. Always appreciated!

dmari and tesla thanks for the support. I really try to believe that my life will only be better. Sometimes that is hard while I am still so uncertain about my future.

My date is only one week away now and I'm trying to not be nervous about being in court before a judge and having to see "opposing". I have felt calm (mostly) and I try not to run through my mind what "might" happen. It would help if I "knew" the particulars about what will happen. I can do hard things!



Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
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