I don't even have words for what I really think.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
This is all about control, not appropriateness.
((WB and bananas))
BG is settled back home and feeling a bit better. She was deeply hurt by this, though. She's going to carry it for a long time, I'm afraid.
Alienates them to the point of not wanting anything to do with him? And lets them go?
Yup, they do. I don't get it - and honestly I don't think I even WANT to get it. The Dooosh has done this to both of our girls now, and it's all his doing. He is, of course, trying to turn this into my fault somehow. He's claiming parental alienation. Big words for such a small man!
It won't work, though, because I have encouraged my girls to speak to him, see him, spend time with him. HE is the one who has chosen not to see them, and they both know it. His loss, and someday when they both hate him even more than they do now, when things are sad for him because he is all alone in life, he will regret his actions. Maybe.
I am glad your banana has a sense of humor and can see through is douchebaggery!
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
you and the bananas rock, you know. I'm so sorry teenbanana was hurt by her dad this way.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
Thanks inconnu... and thanks everyone.
Lots of hugs to you and your sweet little bananas. I'm learning I can't protect my kids from all the rotten things people will throw at them, but I can give them the tools to deal with it. I would just keep letting her know how awesome she is and maybe talk to her about the fact that how she looks is how a lot of people will perceive her (my "big pants" and wallet chains as a teenager didn't help me with my teachers, even though I was a straight A student ).
Dd and I have started watching "My So Called Life" together. It's awesome. She gets to laugh at what we wore back then and she gets to see I was a teen too.. and I get it. I really do. It sounds silly but we're loving it.
My absolute favorite show when I was in high school! Claire Danes and I were born only weeks apart, so it's like I was living through her when that show was on. Boy do I wish I had daughters. I just don't think it will be the same watching it with my sons
So sad... (((BIGHUGZ2MYFAVBANANA)))
ME - BW - 34
HIM - XWH - 38
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Thank God she has you as her mother.
(((nanners & lil' nanner)))
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
The sad thing about what he did to BBG is that he will someday take credit for his actions being the exact right thing to do. (As someone said, it's being a teenager and challenging him, which he failed miserably). He will see what a beautiful, perfectly dressed and made up young woman she becomes and tell himself that it's because he set her straight that day. I've actually seen this with xpos and know the truth of it, sadly.
My child who went through this also has a wonderful sense of humor, but was too devastated by xpos' actions to overcome it that way. I'm glad BBG can use that release and has you there for her. I couldn't be there for mine at that time and so regret that now. Sorry to t/j, but just adding it as confirmation of how well you and BBG are handling this because I've been a part of the disfunction of not doing the right thing in this situation. But at that time I was in my own kind of fog.
And get this... baby banana told me his wife (not OW) told him he did the right thing, that he "spoke from his heart."
Must be pretty dark and dingy in there, yeah? Geesh.
Must be pretty dark and dingy in there, yeah?
Yeah, for sure, sadly. Lots if spiders, snakes and slimy lizards, too. But, maybe that's not being fair to those poor creatures!
You're welcome WB. I'm a bit envious that you have this now. Though my kids say they had a great life growing up, I know there were lots of things I didn't handle well because I was too busy keeping the peace with xpos. He would get angry with me for expressing any kind of differing view. Tell me that I always wanted to point out those things to him. I was one of Pavlov's dog. I got punished so many times, I learned to just let things go; and that was tacit agreement, although it made me feel awful about me. Still does.
I am so sorry for your banana. I am also very, very glad that she has you.