They have a CS agreement but nothing legally decided about custody. DD lives primarily with her mom, but has WXBFs last name (they were never married). So she doesn't think she can tell the school not to let him take her.
If there is no custody arrangment but the custodial parent has concerns, can they do anything to protect the child prior to filing for custody?
Mrs. Robinson- 40, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
She needs to get a custody agreement ASAP. We have a member here who was in the same situation and her baby's father took the child and made her sign paperwork every time she wanted to se him.
Nothing to fool around with--she needs to get a legally recognized custody agreement NOW.
Fortunately for me, my STBXWH hasn't really wanted DD that much so it wasn't a huge concern for me. Some EX's do this though just to get back at the other parent - very sad.
I was very concerned that my ex-shat would take off with my son (he tends to do irrational, impulsive things). I made sure that I filed and had primary custody of my son. That way, if he ever tries something, I have legal recourse.
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC
"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"
I understand the school can't turn him away but you'd think they'd express concern over the affect this has on DD. I hate that she is trying to concentrate in school and is having to wonder if her dad is gonna show up at lunch. School should be a safe place for children not a place of unease.
I'm really gonna push the custody issue w her mom. She can't afford the fees but there are waivers you can try for... ugh, why can't he just be a grown up??
I have sole custody and the school informed me that it doesn't matter, they give creepy xh any info he wants and he can pick up anytime. Very frustrating.
t/j - That doesn't sound right. If you have sole custody, then you have the right to determine who takes your child.