((sense r not))
WS have selfish desires...thus their choice to have an A.
BS have selfish desires...thus our choice to trust and NOT verify.
I am currently struggling with this myself.
So far I have just found hints from lies my wife told me regarding how alive her A still is...have not actually found facts indicating the A is alive in the real world...I believe parts of it are still alive inside her mind.
To date, I am fine with the reality of this.
Your reality is that your husbands A once again existed in the real world. To be sure my wife fooled our counselor, her sister and our best friend...her A went from emotional to physical during intensive counseling and accountability partner establishment....so I understand your situation.
There is a weakness in me, a selfishness of some kind I think, that allowed my wifes betryal of me and my family to be okay back then. I am working on fixing that part of me as it is NOT okay and should not be allowed to happen...it threatens my M and our family.
Words need to be spoken and are important. But these words must be supported by actions of the same tone. When they dont, words are wasted.
God be with us all.