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User Topic: well, darn-it, today is bothering me
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't put a lot of stock in holidays (except Christmas). I didn't think not having Teslet here for mother's day was going to bother me...but it really does. I tell myself that every day I have him is mother's day for me. Not working right now.

I think it's because I know that he is being exposed to mother's day festivities over there with stripper-whore and OC. Why is that bothering me? Is it becuase I'm afraid Teslet might appreciate her? Or be 'forced' to appreciate her while maybe he is wondering why he isn't with his mom? Or maybe this is all about me and I just want my kid with me. Goddammit...I'm a fucking amazing mom...is ex-shat over there telling stripper whore what a great mom she is and Teslet is hearing all this bullshit? Ugh. Sorry. Happy little stripper whore family pictures are creeping into my mind even though I KNOW it is not happy over there.

9 more hours until I get my little guy back. I haven't been this anxious in awhile.

Some humor would be much appreciated now...what is an appropriate mother's day gift for a stripper whore with the cognitive abilities of a flea?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC's a girl, right? Matching stripper outfits? Hers-and-hers stripper poles (a mini for the OC, of course.) A book on increasing self-respect? (Not sure they make one dumbed-down enough for her to understand it, though.)

Luckily for teslet, he got your brains and not XWH's. He knows who is a good, loving parent, and who is a ridiculous loser.

These 9 hours will fly by and then you'll have a great MD evening!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Take2
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

what is an appropriate mother's day gift for a stripper whore with the cognitive abilities of a flea?

I recommend: Frontline flea and tick killer. It will take care of what little intellect she has, and her blood sucking soul too!

eta: Happy Mother's Day Tesla!

[This message edited by Take2 at 9:25 AM, May 12th (Sunday)]


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, didn't you say that ex-shat never did anything for you on Mother's day on another post? So stripper whore is probably getting her first taste of mother's day with no recognition at all from him. It's her turn to be unappreciated!

I hope these 9 hours speed by for you!


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The best gift? Hmmm....truthfully, letting stripper whore have ex-shat. You have a beautiful boy and even if he isn't with you right now, you are his MOTHER. It doesn't matter if you have him all day, he will totally be yours forever. P.S. You also have ALL day to plan an evening for the 2 of you. When they are little it can be nice that you get to plan and they get to participate


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why don't you have Teslet today?


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks! I feel much better already...matching stripper poles...awesome.

And yes, her having to deal with ex-shat is just the gift that keeps on giving!

PR - I don't have Teslet today because I really don't like to fuck with the schedule. If I start harping on the holidays in the parenting guidelines...then he starts paying attention and right now he is so oblivious that he doesn't excercise the full parenting time that he could...including holidays and extended parenting time. Figure I'm better off letting that sleeping dog lie.

Irishlass...I plan on having the fixings to make chocolate souffles tonight...Been telling him about these special little chocolate cakes that only get made on special occassions (haven't baked them in a couple of years)...think tonight is the night. (He loves to bake and cook with me )


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it and it sounds like so much fun for both of you. I can't wait to hear how much he loved doing this with you.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear tesla,

Your teslet is a very bright child. Don't you think for one flea second that your teslet would EVER underestimate you. He knows. Oh yes he knows. He knows his mommy is exceptional.

Remember, your ex-shat also has the same brain as a flea. He ain't no magician. He can't presto magico and force teslet to appreciate stripper-whore. Ex-shat may think that but that's because he has flea brain.

Happy little stripper whore family pictures ... ... You and teslet ARE truly and authentically THE happy family.

Come on girl!! You know all this to be true! Good for you for posting! Being open and honest on this board is a sign of strength!

Happy Mother's Day to a FUCKING AMAZING MOM!! How many hours until you get your momma's day hug?


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you change the decree so he spends Mothers Day with you? Its standard practice here.

Another vote for matching stripper poles.

((Tesla))


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sure your decree says that he spend mothers day with you but I understand not wanting to rock the boat either. My xh takes the kids every chance he is allowed except his 5 weeks during the summer. (At least he hasn't yet.) And I am hesitant to mention anything about summer to him because I don't want him to wake up and start taking his time. I'd die being away from them for 5 weeks.

I'm sorry your having a hard time today. I would not be handling it well either I am sure.

(((tesla)))


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

what is an appropriate mother's day gift for a stripper whore with the cognitive abilities of a flea?

Wire coat hanger, glitter body lotion & a bottle of gin?

And your prolly with Teslet by now!


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Pass
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wire coat hanger, glitter body lotion & a bottle of gin?

Holy shit, that's funny!

Tesla, have a happy Mother's evening. You deserve every bit of love that teslet gives you!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recommend: Frontline flea and tick killer. It will take care of what little intellect she has, and her blood sucking soul too!

Happy Mother's Day Tesla. Lots of love to you today!!


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Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tesla,

What I love is how you are using the time to plan an awesome evening with Teslet! As a mom of three whose X didn't help around the house, I had a hard time getting time to do those fun, extra things. Good for you, and ENJOY! I hope you take some pictures so you have this good Mother's Day memory for the both of you!!


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macakipa
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...what is an appropriate mother's day gift for a stripper whore with the cognitive abilities of a flea?

Rash Guard. You know those poles...

(((tesla and Teslet)))


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got there a few minutes early and no one was home. The happy little family pulled up right at 6. Teslet jumps out of the car with a small vase with a rose and a couple of daisies in it yelling, "Happy Mother's Day!" Stripper whore was just standing there staring...ex-shat was fussing at Teslet about how he should be careful because the little vase was full of water. I don't know...it was surreal. Of course I thanked Teslet and got him into my car. Oh and I did dress like I had been somewhere fabulous...which actually helped me get through this exchange. I feel like I did a year ago...unsure of myself and thrown away. Sheesh, what the hell?...thought this roller coaster had settled out. It probably doesn't help that I had to start the process of wage garnishment...the situation is on my mind more than it has been in the last few months.

Oh, you know what also helped...all the great stripper whore gift ideas. When she was just standing there staring, I thought to myself, "Frontline!"

We got home, made our chocolate souffles and just finished them off. Yum!

Time to get the focus back on our lives.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome. Hug that little cutie a couple extra times for us.


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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When she was just standing there staring, I thought to myself, "Frontline!"

Love you sense of humor Tesla! You survived it, and your little man is home!


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Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Tesla)) Be gentle with yourself honey.

Much Mamma love to you friend. I get it. Completely.

Sharing them with whoremuppets is one thing but the moments I miss still feel like they are being stolen from me.

Its OK to get a funny feeling about it.

We are big and bold and brave and strong and the loveliest parts of us are still soft and vulnerable.

I for one am thrilled we haven't turned to stone.

I know you already feel different today.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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