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savvy
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what it is but I can't stop crying today. Maybe because it's mothers day and everyone is busy with their family obligations and here I sit. My son is home from college and we did do breakfast with his girl and her mom (who is divorced). My daughter is still away at school not due home for a couple weeks. ( I sure miss her) My Wh called first thing this morning and said Happy Mothers day which was nice but it hurts. We should be together our family on a day such as today. I am so heartbroken I feel like I will never get past this. I am no good at being alone. I don't know how to make it through this, I have a couple of good friends that have been great but they are married and have their own lives. How much longer can I deal with this pain I don't know.


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
Tiredofthepain
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Member # 37932
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{HUGS}} This is a very hard day for me also since I miss my mother so very much. On top of the unbearable pain and mind movies that won't stop I am losing it myself today.

Here's to hoping we both feel better and call one of your friends to talk to, I am sure they could make a little time for you today.


ME-BS 48
HIM-WS 38
WS is SA, multiple visits to prostitutes.
Status: Hanging in there

I would rather be told a hurtful truth than a comforting lie.

Posts: 559 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NC
Brokenheart777
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Member # 38561
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im sorry Savy. I understand that today must be incredibly hard for you. Just know that we hear you. Keep posting. Wish I had more to say. Keep talking to people. You are strong and you are doing the right thing being in the 180.


ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back


Posts: 177 | Registered: Feb 2013
Lalagirl
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Member # 14576
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((savvy))))

I know you are hurting terribly, but wanted to wish you a Happy Mother's Day. As hard as it is to do this, and for all that has been taken from you, try to remember that this day is yours as a mother - no one can take that from you.

As Broken said, keep posting - you need to let out your pain. We'll help you through as best we can.

Hugs,

Lala


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 30 years 9/2/13
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS & 20 mo. GD & GB #4 due 8/15(DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

Posts: 5058 | Registered: May 2007
savvy
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for the support. It has been a very hard day. Like most days lately. I just want to feel normal again, but I guess thats a long time coming. I took a walk down to the beach and all I could see is whole families. It hurts so much. Does anyone else feel like they are the only single person around? I know I'm not but it feels that way. I feel so rejected and alone even though I know I'm not alone. It does help to come on here, Though I do wish none of us had to be here.


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
Brokenheart777
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Member # 38561
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Savy,
I remember a few weeks after Dday I had to fly to MN for a business trip. I remember walking around the airports with my headphone in just feeling like I wasn't in reality. Waiting for my flight to board I'd just sit there, feeling empty and questioning everyone while fighting back random tears. The feeling of emotional emptiness and disconnect is a strange one but it is normal to feel this way. Time Savy, time is what will help. I'm glad that you are posting


ME - A new person
HER - A waining memory
DDay - 2/22/2013
2-3 month EA/PA
Together for 6 years, ready to start my life . . .

"I can fill the flask up, but can't get past us
I'm in the storm, staying strong, but can't get back


Posts: 177 | Registered: Feb 2013
lost100
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Member # 39128
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Savvy, I wish you all the best this is such a dreadful time for you. When I have times of clarity I see this journey through pain as a 'tunnel of misery' we have to go through it; at different stages it is tougher than other stages but the pain you feel today has pushed you further through the tunnel to finding a better life. I am in my tunnel too and it is a horrible journey to get where we need to go
.“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”


Posts: 26 | Registered: Apr 2013
cheerless
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there Savvy. It's a day-by-day (sometimes hour-by-hour) hellish process. Keep seeking out support on SI and IRL.

Sending you strength from down south.


♪I'm not fine; I'm in pain
It's harder every day ~ Maroon 5♫

BS:45 WH:47 needhelp123
8yr EA&PA w/MCOW emp/frmr emp
19y M * 25y T, 2 teens
DDay 12/31/12*5w TT
Sick tired sad


Posts: 273 | Registered: Jan 2013
h0pe4ul
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Member # 38446
Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you had such a difficult day yesterday, Savvy.

I hope today is much better for you!

((((((Big Hugs to You))))))


Posts: 185 | Registered: Feb 2013
stilltrying2025
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Member # 39145
Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry to hear you had a bad mother's day. I didn't even get a happy mother's day from WH. I guess you, like me, just have to hold on to our children and keep going forward. I feel your pain and hurt. I hope you are having a better day today!


Me: 38
WH: 43
DD: Thanksgiving Day, 2012
Status: Separated

Posts: 184 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Minnesota
savvy
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Member # 39102
Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you I am sorry that you all are feeling this pain I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, except the Ow! I feel she deserves it. that maybe shameful of me to say but I really hate her, she knew me, knew we were married. And yes he is just as much to blame if not more.!!


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
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