I spent about five days crying, drinking, begging for answers to be told absolutely nothing.
Now, I am just flat pissed! For the last few days I have disengaged. Unless you want to tell me the who, when, what and where.. piss off. He keeps telling me how much he loves me, wants to go to MC, yet has done nothing about it. No money, blah, blah, blah.
I understand that I am the one that confronted him about this situation, but my responsibility ends there. I know that because of the trauma of the cheating that decisions should not be made in haste, but I think that he is pissed about being caught, not about what he has done to our 26 year marriage. Anyone else start this journey this way and have any positive result?
When I figured out who and confronted the OM, he said they had been sleeping together for nine months. Sometimes at my house.
It was horrible. It's been three months and my WW says she's "sorry for hurting us." What I need to hear from her is that she's sorry for cheating, sorry for destroying our marriage.
At times, she acts like she's angry at me for ending her other relationship with the OM.
Trust your gut feelings. Trust your instincts.
You might have to go to MC to get your answers.
Your questions are valid. The funny thing I discovered about SI is that I'm not special. None of us are. The WS all acts about the same and the BS also all react roughly the same way.
Others behaving like your BS eventually admitted to what they did. Pursue it.
Good luck. This is immensely painful.
I understand that it has been a short time since I caught him,but I already feel done.
Is this normal?
What pp said: I thought that when first reading here. That someone else was describing my WH. Their behavior is so similar it's scary!
DS (6), DS (18 months)
Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".
Status: Done like dinner
I think that for me, the positive result will be the healing of my heart, the knowledge that I was not to blame for the affair and to move on. My WS has shown no remorse and is with the OW. His choice. We are going through a divorce and it's tearing me apart. It's been so hard. The positive result will be that I still believe in love.
Expect the emotional roller coaster ride. You will find support and understanding here.
I think that he is pissed about being caught, not about what he has done to our 26 year marriage
That's fairly common tbh. I got shouted at for interfering with my wife's private life. I seem to remember apologising, so you're doing a lot better than I did!
I flipped out. He has told me nothing thus far. I told him that I would not allow him to dictate how and when I get to heal. I am utterly speechless.
Honestly, it is a damn good thing he is not here.
Everyday I am closer to walking away.This is just cruelty.
I wonder who this stranger is... this IS NOT the man I married..