[This message edited by jjsr at 10:40 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)]
But yea, I hear ya!
[This message edited by sudra at 11:41 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)]
I put it this way: "when we got married, we started on a hike together. Along the way one or the other of us fell behind and caught up, and once you took a very wrong turn. Us going forward means you have to catch up with where I am. I'm not going to go back to find you. You catch up or I'll go on without you."
A year of false R. I grew and worked, he didn't. He took off his wedding ring during an alcoholic relapse, I packed and left the next day. I went back 8 weeks later, working hard
Remorse is more about 'what can I do to help you heal and build a great new relationship'. If that's not there, R is likely to be impossible.
He's got to forgive himself, but he's also got to be remorseful. What doe he and your MC say about that?