Topic: This is what scares me most about R
Member # 39001
| Posted: 6:11 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
A young girl was trudging along a mountain path, trying to reach her grandmother's house.
It was bitter cold, and the wind cut like a knife.
When she was within sight of her destination, she heard a rustle at her feet.
Looking down, she saw a snake.
Before she could move, the snake spoke to her.
He said, "I am about to die.
It is too cold for me up here, and I am freezing.
There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving.
Please put me under your coat and take me with you."
"No," replied the girl. "I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake.
If I pick you up, you will bite me, and your bite is poisonous."
"No, no," said the snake. "If you help me, you will be my best friend.
I will treat you differently."
The little girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over.
She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and had to admit that it was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen.
Suddenly, she said, "I believe you. I will save you.
All living things deserve to be treated with kindness."
The little girl reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and proceeded toward her grandmother's house.
Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side.
The snake had bitten her.
"How could you do this to me?" she cried.
"You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!"
"You knew what I was when you picked me up," hissed the snake as he slithered away.
BS - 57
SAWH - 60 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 36 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
But this time, Lord you gave me a mountain - Elvis
Posts: 453 | Registered: Apr 2013
Member # 36622
| Posted: 6:21 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Ouch...yea, me too
fWS 36 (broevil)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better
"Knowing is half the battle"
Expecting progress not perfection
Posts: 2321 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 37107
| Posted: 6:57 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Yup, it scares me too. I feel SO vulnerable!
BS (me) 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a babe on the way!) & 18yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later Trying to R
Posts: 705 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 29332
| Posted: 8:47 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
That story really resonates with me... thank you.
Married 6 yrs
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.
Posts: 955 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Arizona
Member # 26970
| Posted: 8:53 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
..turns out the world is full of snakes..
wearing sheeps' clothing.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 41 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 3919 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 35387
| Posted: 8:54 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Me (BS - 36)
WH (Sicktomy - 38)
Married 8 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
Posts: 418 | Registered: Apr 2012
Member # 36711
| Posted: 9:27 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1194 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
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Member # 35700
| Posted: 10:22 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
BS (me) 45
WS (the idiot) 42
DD 1 Feb 20, 2012
Married 16 years /together 20
2 beautiful 8yr old twins (b/g) My reason for living
TT until March 2012
numerous BJ's and 1 Day at a hotel where he threw it all away!
Posts: 35 | Registered: May 2012
Member # 38495
| Posted: 11:59 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Wow- just wow!!!!
I feel the same- once bitten twice shy!! Waiting for the next betrayal to come my way!!!
Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!
Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: mj052
Member # 38399
| Posted: 4:08 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Ouch, that's exactly how I've been feeling lately. I want to forgive and move on because I truly love him very much, but I'm so scared that he's going to "bite" me again.
Me BS: 42
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9
Posts: 121 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
Member # 35215
| Posted: 4:11 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
I just discussed this in IC today. It's almost like I am permanently holding a part of myself back just in case I get bitten again.
BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." -Carl Sagan
Posts: 2219 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Member # 32811
| Posted: 4:20 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013|
Weird...just weird. I just dreamt of a snake two days ago...now this story.
God is trying to tell me something...I need to look deep within myself.
Thanks for sharing.
Posts: 2473 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...
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