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User Topic: This is what scares me most about R
outtanowhere
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Default  Posted: 6:11 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A young girl was trudging along a mountain path, trying to reach her grandmother's house.
It was bitter cold, and the wind cut like a knife.
When she was within sight of her destination, she heard a rustle at her feet.

Looking down, she saw a snake.
Before she could move, the snake spoke to her.
He said, "I am about to die.
It is too cold for me up here, and I am freezing.
There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving.
Please put me under your coat and take me with you."

"No," replied the girl. "I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake.
If I pick you up, you will bite me, and your bite is poisonous."

"No, no," said the snake. "If you help me, you will be my best friend.
I will treat you differently."

The little girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over.
She looked at the beautiful markings on the snake and had to admit that it was the most beautiful snake she had ever seen.

Suddenly, she said, "I believe you. I will save you.
All living things deserve to be treated with kindness."

The little girl reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and proceeded toward her grandmother's house.

Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side.
The snake had bitten her.

"How could you do this to me?" she cried.
"You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!"

"You knew what I was when you picked me up," hissed the snake as he slithered away.


BS - 58
SAWH - 61 multiple encounters with prostitutes and other sex workers
Married 37 years
Dday - 2/19/13 - found the emails
He promised me Heaven then put me thru hell

Posts: 736 | Registered: Apr 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch...yea, me too


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2587 | Registered: Aug 2012
ItsaClimb
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, it scares me too. I feel SO vulnerable!


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 968 | Registered: Oct 2012
ineedtoleave
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That story really resonates with me... thank you.


BS(me)-52
WH-59
OW-43(married ex-Co-worker)
Married 6 yrs
DD#1: 3/19/10
DD#2: 5/11/10
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.

Posts: 958 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Arizona
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..turns out the world is full of snakes..

wearing sheeps' clothing.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4124 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Zayda1
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes...


Married 9 years, together for 11 years
2 children (7 years & 4 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)

Posts: 465 | Registered: Apr 2012
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exactly.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Suckerpunched66
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

EXACTLY!!


BS (me) 45
WS (the idiot) 42
DD 1 Feb 20, 2012
Married 16 years /together 20
2 beautiful 8yr old twins (b/g) My reason for living
TT until March 2012
numerous BJ's and 1 Day at a hotel where he threw it all away!

Posts: 37 | Registered: May 2012
mj052
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow- just wow!!!!

I feel the same- once bitten twice shy!! Waiting for the next betrayal to come my way!!!


Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!

Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: mj052
1devastedmom
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ouch, that's exactly how I've been feeling lately. I want to forgive and move on because I truly love him very much, but I'm so scared that he's going to "bite" me again.


Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9
Reconcilling

Posts: 138 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just discussed this in IC today. It's almost like I am permanently holding a part of myself back just in case I get bitten again.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, May 15th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Weird...just weird. I just dreamt of a snake two days ago...now this story.
God is trying to tell me something...I need to look deep within myself.

Thanks for sharing.


Posts: 2485 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
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