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InTheRabbitHole (original poster member #19319) posted at 5:03 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013
XH emailed me late last night. Said he felt guilty and was scared of making the wrong choice. I need to remain NC. It's not going to be a problem because I think he's trying to shitstir.
I also need to firmly break it off with the guy I've been dating. It's just not working out. He eyerolled me last week (I find it disrespectful) and got pissed off at me (again) for some unknown reason. He makes me feel like I'm the dumbest person in the world. That's not what a healthy relationship is. So I need to find it in me to properly do it tonight.
Ugh. After this I want to have a long break, just to myself. No dating, no men, no expectations, no anything.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 6:28 PM on Wednesday, May 15th, 2013
After this I want to have a long break, just to myself. No dating, no men, no expectations, no anything.
This is probably the best thing you can do for yourself right now. I know many of us have had to do the same thing and it really does help. 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 1:27 AM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
Endings are never easy.
XH emailed me late last night. Said he felt guilty and was scared of making the wrong choice
Yes he did and had years to make you safe and loved in the marriage again. You're right NC and what more could there ever be to hear from him anyway.
He makes me feel like I'm the dumbest person in the world. That's not what a healthy relationship is. So I need to find it in me to properly do it tonight.
It's all about not settling for less than we deserve. I hope you found the words you needed last night.
After this I want to have a long break, just to myself. No dating, no men, no expectations, no anything.
And you'll be OK !
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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