So tonight I go in and the team mom mentions needing the play fees. Now XH's step-DD, H, is also on the team (why? not sure as she's into non-sport things but apparently the XH and wife decided 'the girls' should do this together, to bond I suppose). Back on track....so we agreed that we'd each pay half for our DD.
We're writing checks and XH tells the team mom he's paying all for step-DD and then half for our DD. I joked that if he could pay for all step-DD, he could do all for our DD too, ha ha.
He 'kids' back how, "Ha ha, I wish. *I* have to pay for all of H...you can do half for DD". It's all in jest, but it did kinda piss me off and hurt a little too (which is dumb, I know).
I am ONE parent of 2 kids who makes like nothing, nothing meaning that I know it's at least 1/5 of what he and wife made 5 yrs ago, so they have to be making more now.
Like it just jerked me off that I was supposed to jokingly 'feel bad' that he/they have to pay for all of step-DD. Are you fucking kidding me?!
Thanks for letting me spout since peeps IRL would probably think I'm a kook!
At least he paid his portion I guess. My dipshit ex STILL doesn't think he has to pay half of co-pays and extracurriculars.. He thinks it's all included in child support. I'm so tired of explaining the rules to him. Or having to pay my lawyer to do it. Siiiiiiigh...
He's just annoying. LOL!
but doing what you're SUPPOSED to do isn't medal worthy either.
I totally agree. My STBX really does want a damn cookie when he follows the rules. Annoying indeed!
This 'thing' is my DD's thing; she's good at it and loves it.
The stepDD, while a nice kid, does like 3 other activities...so why did they insist she horn in on my DD's ONE g.d. thing? I'm sure XH and wife thought it'd be super neato for the girls to bond and all, but please. Make them rake the yard together.
What galls me more is that this is my DD's 'thing' and she was really mad she had to share it. The other kid doesn't have to share her things; my kids have to share EVERYTHING there. Like GRRR!
[This message edited by wannabenormal at 3:26 AM, May 23rd (Thursday)]
The Dooosh tries the same bullshit with "paying half" of everything. He wanted me to pay half of some sporting equipment he bought... but then when I added up all the sports crap I bought, it evened out.
So, yeah, I hadn't asked him to pay half because I figured we'd each pay what we needed to at the time, and it would all even out. But now I know better - he taught me!! I have kept each and every receipt and plan to submit them so he can pay me my half.
He and NW make easily 5x my household income... including CS.
And he wants a frigging trophy for doing the minimum the state will allow. A cookie isn't good enough for him.
Wannabe I get it... if it weren't for the fact that I have all girls and NW has an older DD and a DS about my girls age... he would be enlisted to do the things my kids like to do. Thank God he's a boy.... is all I got to say.