So if he's doing everything right, that's half the battle.. the rest is- is he truly sincere and can he stay the course..? Time will tell if the changes are permanent. But yes, guard your heart always. I believe you can give it, but still guard it.
What crazy thing holds us on to a person who clearly doesn't care about us... yet we still hold on.
Now do we do this?
"Keep you in the dark you know they all pretend. Keep you in the dark and so it all began" Pretender by Foo Fighters
Can you regret getting M to the WS and still have hope of recovering the M?
I think so. I did and sometimes still do and our R is going well. I think it's part of the bargaining stage. If we'd never gotten married, this would never have happened. It's a form of trying to protect yourself and analyze what went wrong.
ETA about love as a feeling. Feelings are fleeting. They can change easily, especially after going through a trauma like infidelity. Disillusionment happens. IMO, the key is what you and your partner do about it, and how you communicate about it.
That's where the concept of Love is a Decision comes in. You make an active choice to love through loving actions vs relying on feelings. But there was a time I was too angry or depressed to even care about that. It's normal. That concept helped.
[This message edited by DixieDevastated at 10:00 AM, May 17th (Friday)]
Don't have any advice, but I can relate.
I think the most important thing is that like us, you two still love each other. Without that, people leave and love from a distance.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 10:24 AM, May 18th (Saturday)]
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
*Winners never cheat and cheaters never win*