Well so not-yet-D-collegue got bold & told me he liked me, as in wants to date me like me. Gah! I knew it was coming.
As the words were coming out of his mouth I was thinking, "no, stop, I don't want to deal with the reality, run run run".
I told him I was flattered, and appreciated him telling me, but my hands were tied. I told him I was dating around, so that there were other people "in my orbit" (well, only 1 but he's eligible and I think I *might* like him) and most importantly, he wasn't divorced yet. And I don't date men who aren't divorced. I said circumstances just meant that the only route for us was friends.
Those of you who know me know that I don't really think men & women can be friends like that b/c I think when they are 1 of the 2 always has the hots for the other in some form or fashion. Many of you will disagree, but since we're talking my opinion and my life, it is what it is. So now my challenge will be to maintain an appropriate level of contact. It could so easily turn into one of those things where I let him be too helpful b/c I need it and that would be wrong.
It's also a little tough b/c from a lifestyle/background/kindness perspective, not-yet-D-guy is a good fit for me. It's a shame really, the timing.
It's funny, b/c being open means people try to enter my life, lol, and I have to be upfront and say something. I can't hide. I have to deal. It was an interesting little lesson for me in dealing, rather than running and hiding from people, and using say food to do it. So this is progress still!
And OLD guy is now a 2 hour drive away, ooooh, can't wait to meet him!
(@VioletPush PM me if you want to chat CrossFit, it's awesome, I love it, and I'll share in any way you need to help you out).