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User Topic: I am reading "Thank you for leaving me"
dmari
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interesting read so far but what I wanted to share is that I am thankful he left me ~ it has allowed me to "see" the real him and it has allowed me to be the real me.

I also changed my profile description and added IO (Insignificant Other) because he truly is insignificant to me. The only time he comes to my mind is when he is fucking me over on finances (not paying his half of uncovered medical bills, not paying credit card bill, claiming both children for his taxes). Other than that, it's "eh".

It does get better friends!!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2271 | Registered: Oct 2012
Strongmama
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll have to read this. I thought about writing a book titled; Thank you for leaving me twice ftard; thank you very much!
Yes it does get better. When you see them for what they really are- it's freeing!

Posts: 662 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, May 18th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I must look it up. It is absolutely how I'm feeling about this whole thing.

I was miserable in that M for at least the last 5 years. Not good enough to stay, not bad enough to leave was the Ms Motto.

Who knows at what point he started cheating - he was always on the slippery slope. Even if he hadn't cheated it didn't change the fact that he treated me like shit and was and all-round shit husband and father.

I've said here before that cheating was the kindest thing he has done to me in the last 5 years. It freed me at a time when I did not yet have the courage to free myself.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, May 19th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll have to read that one when I get the chance!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, May 19th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll have to read that one when I get the chance!


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, May 19th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Interesting!! I'm gonna go look for it :)


Everyday is a blank canvas, and only you hold the brush.
30y M traded in for a POM (pathetic Old Maid 46, 2 kids from different dads. never married)
S 11/11, D final 1/14.

Posts: 1454 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Suburbia, Arizona
Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, May 19th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope this works...


Everyday is a blank canvas, and only you hold the brush.
30y M traded in for a POM (pathetic Old Maid 46, 2 kids from different dads. never married)
S 11/11, D final 1/14.

Posts: 1454 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Suburbia, Arizona
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