I applied for every state program I could but there's a hold up now bc I am a permanent resident alien and they want me to have a new card, which costs $450 and takes 4-7 months to get. So I'm screwed there now.
The rent hasn't been paid since March and without these state programs I don't have a hope of paying them. My mom has put her house on the market to move into a mother daughter that my children and I will move into with her, but I can't move in with her until then.
The person I thought was going to loan me the retainer for my lawyer said he doesn't want to "get involved" and has declined. If I file, WH is going to show up to court with lawyers, the OW's family is all lawyers and I'm going to get completely screwed on everything.
My in laws have taken offense to the idea that I plan on keeping my same last name once divorced and have started sending me horrible text messages saying how OW is the true *insert last name* and that I need to stop being pathetic clinging onto a family that wants nothing to do with me anymore. I have no intention of going back to my maiden name, I will not have a different last name than my children.
I tried to call WH this morning to see if he wanted to try to talk this thing out and I got the OW's voice mail. I guess WH is busy and he forwarded his phone lines to her. Last thing I wanted to hear this morning, ugh.
I just don't get how I became the enemy, I just needed a car to drive my kids around. I'm entitled to one, it's not an unreasonable request. But I guess it warrants being completely financially cut off.
Sorry for the woe is me, feeling sorry for myself post. I'm just feeling so beaten down today, and the rainy Monday isn't helping.
Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.
"Some of us don't see people how they are but how we need them to be".....quote from Uncertainone
Here's the thing: you have to find some way to get the paperwork filed and get an order of support. I don't care who that fucker knows and shows up in court with for a lawyer...let him bring the easter fucking bunny...it's not going to change the amount of CS he is ordered to pay. Focus on that...there must be legal aide or maybe some one on this forum from NJ that can point you in the right direction.
[This message edited by tesla at 7:52 PM, May 20th (Monday)]
But, while rarely enforced b/c most people don't think to, those financial agreements are real. If your husband signed one, guess what, you can enforce it.