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cuppacoffee (original poster member #39313) posted at 11:04 PM on Monday, May 20th, 2013
The husband had been messing around with a co worker. She transfered out of their location shortly after the fucked up their "friendship" aka the affair. The "friendship" and D-day ended last week. She was on the schedule for his location tonight but some paperwork glitches made it so she was unable to work there tonight.
Thank God or I would have flipped my shit. I cried after he left for work tonight.
I hate not trusting him which is so stupid because of what he did. I hate not trusting him to go to work. I hate that she had been thinking about transferring back since she moved in with her bf that she cheated on with my husband.
When am I ever going to be comfortable with him going to work again?
Yes I know that this is fresh and just happened but I just want to move forward already. IDK maybe I had already mentally prepared myself for this and I just want to go forward.
I feel so pathetic and weak.
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
Jaded4life ( member #37577) posted at 1:31 AM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
((((((Cuppacoffee)))))). I don't have any words of wisdom, just wanna send you some hugs. 6 mos in, and I still can't trust him. It's a tricky thing, trust- once it's gone, it's hard to catch. You are not pathetic and weak. Your heart has been broken and it will take some time and lot of work to mend. It hurts. Give it time and be kind to yourself. I hope your WH is working hard to earn your trust.
D-Months: Nov & Dec 2012. TT.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 1:37 AM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
It's especially awful when the aps work together. Some WSes look for new jobs so as to be able to go completely NC. Would that work for you?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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