Since we separated, I've been going to as many musical things as possible - playing with and in front of others makes me feel a little less crazy.
On Monday nights I've been going to an open stage. I love this event, and look forward to it every week.
However, there is another regular there who looks a lot like STBXW's fuck-buddy. Whenever I see him, I think of STBXW banging this dude, and wonder how long it's really been happening.
I don't want to stop going to my open stage, but need to be able to see this other musician without the mind-movies. What can I do to get my brain out of this?
Anyhoo, the only thing I can think of right now is to stare at him for a few minutes and try to think of anybody else he looks like. Or give him a few extra features in your head to make him look like someone else, like maybe Gary Busey, ha ha.
But don't let this trigger stop you from going! Open night sounds like a fabulous time and a great outlet for you
I'm definitely going to keep going to the open stage. Any nights that I can play music help me to keep from going crazy.
And dude, I need all the help I can get!