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User Topic: I must be strong
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

somehow even while we are living together I have to detach.

He is not willing to give me what I need. Will not even try to find out. Keeps blaming my pain on my childhood. That it is not from his betrayal.

I am going to work on me. I will not worry any longer if I am meeting his needs.

It is up to him to take responsibility if he so chooses.

I he chooses not to we are done. I will not just pretend that all is forgiven.

Forgiveness cannot be given without remorse.

Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14

Posts: 1343 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are completely and totally right.

Many hugs to strong you.

D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

Posts: 1081 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: FL
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

amen, and you ARE strong.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10083 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, May 21st (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cantaccept)) This can be your new prayer - Keep saying it!Post it where you can see it everyday!


I read this one this site: You don't need the bus to back over you after its already run you over.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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