We are doing good. Most days.
I still struggle. But WH is really trying and putting in the work.
Why do I still hear "she was just a friend?" He has never once admitted to an EA or PA. He knows he fucked up. Knows boundaries were crossed.
Why can't I let it go? I have NO proof to say otherwise. Never intercepted a text, overheard a phone call. OW has swore nothing happened - but her loyalty lied with WH at the time.
WH swore he'd cut off all contact with her. All he wanted was his family. He would do anything for us. But yet after dday a secret phone was purchased?
If only I had waited to confront, planted the VAR... caught him.
Maybe nothing physical did happen. Maybe it was an EA (it WAS at least that) but I need to hear him say it. I need to know he had a real reason to throw everything away on someone more than a "friend".
Somedays are just hard. ME: 30
Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.