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pewpewpew (original poster member #38116) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
I am out of resources.
Never had proof. Never saw a text, overheard a convo, etc.
I am at a loss. WH has been on his best behavior. Doing everything I ask and doing his best to repair our M.
It's not enough. I need the truth.
I called OWs BS when I found out. He was blindsided but ultimately believed her and now they are "stronger than ever".
His # has been blocked from my cell. By either himself or OW.
Im wondering if he knows more... Maybe she came clean or ?!?!
I want to catfish him. Use a sexy pic and just chat. See how his M is, etc...
If all else fails, maybe take screen shots to send to OW?
Heartless? Too much revenge?
I need some karma.
BS - 32
DDay 1: July 2012 - EA with COW
DDay 2: March 2015; same COW
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, pack your shit and get out.
Fool me twice, now what?!?!
Sharpie4 ( member #35905) posted at 11:08 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
I've not been in your situation to tell, or know the BS, but I would walk away...quickly. Who cares about their marraige? Technically - if it's better, good. That means she will leave your husband alone - or is more likely to. It's not about them. I know how it is to not know, but if you got a confession and remorse, then - well, I can't tell you you are *lucky* exactly - none of us are, but you have something to move on from. God bless. I think there is lots of truth in A) not playing with fire or you'll get burned and B) the best revenge is a life wll lived. As long as she is leaving your husband alone and you exposed it, I would keep as far away as possible.
[This message edited by Sharpie4 at 5:09 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)]
I still don't know what's going on.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:09 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to not have the proof you feel you need. But honey? You're not going to get ANYTHING from the OW or her BS. You want to create a fake persona in the hopes that your WS's OW's BS hits on you??? That is absolute madness, dear.
Stop for a minute and breathe.
Focus back on you and your H.
If you assume that you will never get "the truth" (and really - very few people actually do), what does that mean for you? Are you unable or unwilling to move forward with R if you don't know what happened? Are you able to start from where you are with your WH and build something new? Or are you done?
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
RunningBlind ( new member #39203) posted at 11:29 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
no no no..if he wants to live in denial let him. you've done your part in telling him about his wife, but he chose to believe her and not you. understandable for someone in his situation. foolish, but understandable.
chances are very good that she will betray him again since she essentially got away with it. and hopefully, he will catch her when it happens. then he will kick himself for not listening to you.
besides, baiting him--even if you only mean to "out" him--is really no better than OW behavior. let it go, and focus not on your H but on YOU. because you are the most important thing right now. NOT OW or their M.
me: BS, early 30's
him: WS, early 30's
2 young kiddos
loveisareddress ( member #36474) posted at 11:33 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
I want to catfish him. Use a sexy pic and just chat. See how his M is, etc...
If all else fails, maybe take screen shots to send to OW?
This is no good. If it hits the fan, your spouse can use this against you by claiming you had an affair.
Don't go there.
Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.
I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.
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