Topic: Does anyone feel like a fool for Ring?
Member # 36654
| Posted: 12:50 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013|
Yes. Everyday. I know however that I am not a fool, just a loving wife with a really big heart. I am willing to attempt R once more because I love my WH#2 and I really think he does love me. He is just really broken right now and I can't help him fix that. He has to do it. If he chooses not to then I can say I gave it my all before I walked away.
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.
Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Member # 37683
| Posted: 1:39 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013|
Of course I feel like a fool. How could I not have seen it, how could I not have caught it earlier.
But, I was a good loving trusting wife, which is what I was suppossed to be doing. We can't beat ourselves up. Our spouses are broken.
Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
"The Universe Unfolds as it Should"
Posts: 301 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Missouri
Member # 39114
| Posted: 4:12 PM, May 27th (Monday), 2013|
I think it's 100 percent natural to feel like a fool. But we are not fools, we were just fooled by someone we trusted and who betrayed us. I wasn't looking for evidence of unfaithfulness, were you? no, we trusted. That's not being foolish; that's being healthy and having someone abuse us for their own selfish needs.
Know that it's okay to feel like a fool. I know that feeling extremely well!!!! But I also know that I'm not a fool, unless I stay with him, and then I probably am. But your situation is likely different from mine; you likely have more good reasons to stay.
Hang in there. This journey sucks more than anything except death.
Me BS 48 Him: Dumbass. 4.5yr LTA. DDays 4/2013. Selfish "in his own world" repressed angry "man", true Jekyll Hyde. Post Dday R disasterous. Poor guy is so clueless, I now feel badly for him. What a mess. Moving states after house sale.
Posts: 506 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: theagonyofit
Member # 31240
| Posted: 4:43 PM, May 27th (Monday), 2013|
Not any more....
D would have been worse for me.
FBH (me) - 65+, FWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together almost 49 (as of January, 2014)
DDay - 12/2010
I share my own experience not because I'm a good model but because it's the only experience I know.
Posts: 8558 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 26465
| Posted: 5:26 PM, May 27th (Monday), 2013|
I did for a long time. Now I am proud of me. Not of his past actions but his actions now are what I look at. Honestly on bad days I break out the bible and pray for strength.
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
Posts: 3107 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Member # 38207
| Posted: 12:56 AM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013|
Yes. My H and I just had this conversation (again, for probably the millionth time). He told me he never thought I was a fool for staying with him. That it showed him how deep my love is and how fiercely loyal I am. He says he gained respect for me when I didn't kick him to the curb. When I get caught up worrying about who is spreading what gossip and what everyone else thinks, I remember that he and I are really the only ones who have valid opinions about our relationship and we both know, deep in our hearts, that we have made and are working on the right decision for us.
Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
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