More important, for most of us, it's not the sex that hurts, it's the betrayal. EA or PA, no diff - you've still been betrayed.
Wait a while - you'll get more support. While you're waiting, check out the Healing Library - link's in the yellow box, upper left of SI pages.
Hang in - you can get through this and thrive.
 Shortly after we started dating he did try to get an ex to sleep with him but it didn't happen
 my husbands EA's and his attempts at PA ...and the emails with girls and asking for pictures and trading stories and texts has been going on for over 2 years
 Also while on deployment he was making plans to meet a girl and kiss but they didn't go though
Spend some time reading "The Healing Library" here (link in yellow box, upper left).
Long distance R will be difficult, since I recommend evaluating a person's ACTIONS, not just his words, when evaluating remorse (which is different than guilt).
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