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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I now have it. It took almost 20 weeks to get to me.

DH is in a job field where the potential for his bad guys to find us and use us against him is a real possiblity. DH is training me, we go to the range as often as we can. I feel good knowing that I have a tool to help me to survive if need be.

My mom, she rolled her eyes at me and said "well, I hope you feel safer now".....and it made me think.

I actually don't feel safer by what she means. I feel empowered to know that I have a tool that will help protect me from anyone trying to hurt me and my family.

Until DH, I really didn't mess with guns, there was no need. Now though, they are a part of everyday life. DS and DD actually help him load his belt up everyday before work, and help him put everything away when he gets home.

We do not hide them from the kids, but we have a huge safe they can't open.

People look at me different now. They shyed away from me, and one even picked different check out lane. I wanted to let them know that my personal choice is made with the upmost love for my family, and I don't flaunt it because i have respect for strangers (but, i am small and fairly thin...its hard to hide a 9mm). That if a robber came in here right now with a gun, I would do my best to protect innocent lives with my gun.

But, those moments are gone before i can say anything.

I dont get the stigma of guns...they were once a staple of standard everyday living. I dont understand the fear of guns in the right hands.

I just wanted you all to know that i am a PROUD Concealed Carry Permit holder now.

And my biggest most heartfelt wish on this earth is that I never ever have to use it.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!
I have had my CCW for about 3 years and because of my knowledge and skill I KNOW I won't be a victim .
If some nut job thinks he can take me he's got another thing coming.

Having that knowledge and confidence changes the way one carries themselves. I highly doubt anyone would approach me just because of how I carry myself.

Guns are not the enemy. When knowledge and training they are very safe. I too carry a 9mm police issue.


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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I LOVE how easy it is to conceal DH's service pistol is...i HATE the kick it has. Its almost like its top heavy.

I like mine ok, but I would rather have a .38...I know its less power, but I would feel more comfortable with it. I like my 9mm, its just that if i had to have a choice, i would choose the .38.

I will probably get one down the road, or for my birthday - then i can pick and choose.

DH is glad that I am on board with this. He says it eases his worry while he is away from us that at least I have the ability to protect myself and the kids. We have had a few scares, so I know that in the moment, i can do what i need, but its all become of memory conditioning...doing things over and over until they are second nature and you don't think about it.


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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I travel alone, and stay alone in a fairly remote location a good bit. I will NOT be a victim. I am a responsible gun owner.

The last thing in the world I would ever want to have to do would be to use it, but if it became necessary, I most certainly would.


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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted you all to know that i am a PROUD Concealed Carry Permit holder now.

If you live in Texas, you just assume every person has a gun on them...legally or not. It certainly cuts down on the rude driving

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 9:02 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted you all to know that i am a PROUD Concealed Carry Permit holder now.

That's awesome! I'm happy for you.

If you live in Texas, you just assume every person has a gun on them...legally or not. It certainly cuts down on the rude driving


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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know what's weird DS? I was thinking the exact opposite. Here you assume nobody has one
Then your 16 year old dd tells you she wants to be a cop and to call and change her schedule to get the courses she needs, and to call your Uncle in law enforcement for college advice. After you physically close your mouth with your hand and make encouraging noises you start thinking about the kid who plays with kittens and who's pigtails you lovingly brushed every day carrying a gun every day as a grown up .

I'm still reeling on this one a bit.



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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you live in Texas, you just assume every person has a gun on them...legally or not. It certainly cuts down on the rude driving

So true!


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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you live in Texas, you just assume every person has a gun on them...legally or not. It certainly cuts down on the rude driving

So that's where those holes came from in our rental car


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After you physically close your mouth with your hand and make encouraging noises you start thinking about the kid who plays with kittens and who's pigtails you lovingly brushed every day carrying a gun every day as a grown up

Aw...meta, it will be all right. (((HUGS)))

See, I can say that because my daughter is still 6


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know anyone (except MH's mom) that doesn't own at least one gun. Every neighbor, all family and friends own guns. Even our disabled older neighbor who is in a wheelchair...he sits on one of his guns

I'm not a fan of guns, but I can promise you that is someone was trying to break into our home, the last thing they'd hear is a shotgun going off.

All our neighbors have an agreement to use the Castle Law as well. Not like anything would happen in our old little neighborhood, but it's good to know we all stand by it should we need it.

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 9:23 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's the same in AZ; when we moved there in 1991, they still had drive through guns, ammo & liquor stores-all in the same store! We used to see people with bandaleros strapped across their chests.

I know how to handle a gun; I was taught when I was a child. The X was NYPD and is now a CO. DS had a CCW permit in AZ; I don't know what will happen now that he's in GA.

However, I won't carry a gun. I know I would not use it to take a life. I would not hesitate to use my body to protect myself, but I can't see myself shooting anyone. (I don't hunt either.)

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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have a problem with people WHO ARE PROPERLY TRAINED carrying. I just know a lot of people who think they know what they are doing and they aren't properly trained.

Getting the license is just one part of carrying. In my state you don't have to renew for 5 years. If you don't practice and train - having the weapon is no guarantee that you will be able to use it properly.

I was never around guns growing up, but SO is a retired LEO and has several loaded weapons in the house and one on his person most of the time. I trust that he has the knowledge and training to use them effectively.

I have tried to become familiar with them, but I just can't make myself learn to shoot. I don't like the way it feels. And I'm afraid that I would hesitate in a dangerous situation which would make me having one ineffective.

Talking about taking another life is one thing - actually doing it is quite another. I have been a victim of violent crime and I still don't believe I could have used deadly force. Protecting my family is another thing, but I would rather do it with a stun gun. That way if I make a mistake I won't be taking a life.

Just my 2 cents.

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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you!
I'm former military police. I'm comfortable with weapons, and we have - um, well, a few. I work waaaaay out in the boonies, and sometimes I am the only person here, and basically half an hour from the nearest police station. I always carry, usually in my purse (gun purse, complete with hidden holster). For Christmas, MrPip got me an ankle holster for my .38 so now I am literally always carrying at work.

There is no greater equalizer, especially for women and the elderly. I will not be a victim.

slight t/j: Leveling the playing field: It is interesting to note that pioneer women in the Western states knew how to handle arms in order to protect their family and homesteads when the men were away. It is no surprise that women were granted the right to vote in the West earlier than their sisters in the East.


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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats to you but, it's like looking into a different world- not even all police carry guns here- I've never even touched or seen a real gun apart from outside Buckingham Palace!!

I'm glad you feel empowered but, I'm glad guns are illegal here... Means if someone is shot- it makes headlines of the news no matter what.

I hope you never have to use it either


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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted you all to know that i am a PROUD Concealed Carry Permit holder now.

There are many hoplophobics out there. People who are only exposed to bad firearms news in the media will likely never 'get it.' That's OK too.

There are ways to carry concealed and not be detected, including using compacts, but you should rent one first because lighter weight, shorter barrel pistols do have more apparent recoil.

[This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 10:08 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]


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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Talking about taking another life is one thing - actually doing it is quite another.

Honestly, I thought about this a lot before even applying for my permit. I told DH that I wanted to be trained and comfortable before I applied, and the 20 weeks after have been used to educate me on gun handling and other fun stuff he learns in training.

I still still think about this after all of that, because in the end, its still a human life.

Then we got a threat...and then another....and then he was sent home early to be with us 'just in case'. After that, i knew in my heart - i would be ok with doing whatever was necessary to protect my family.

It was such a degrading moment to be in fear in my own home because some nut job felon can't grow up and do what he's supposed to do. I felt helpless and then i got really angry that he had the power to do that to me. After that, I changed, I just knew that I could and would if necessary.

I dont want to be in that position, I never want to have to protect myself/family....but I will if i need to


Also, its great to be in the company of SI. I thought you were a great bunch before, but now....man, its nice to feel like I am not alone


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have an irrational aversion to weapons!!! Haha and I'm not scared of them- might be scared of the person carrying it under certain circumstances!!

It's just my personal preference, just like I wouldn't carry a knife- although a sword would be pretty cool... En garde!!!

Edited to add- please know I'm not against you one bit and I'm honestly pleased for you. It's just a shame it's what's needed- that's what I meant!!

[This message edited by idiot85 at 10:31 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..recently in a Toronto shopping mall, a couple of teenage gang bangers open-fired to avenge some turf war violation.

..innocent people were shot.

I can't help but wonder if most of the thousand people in that food court had been carrying, how many would have pulled out their guns and started firing at the perpetrators.

..and how many other innocent people would have been hit by all the flying bullets???

..who says when and where it is ok to pull out their gun and use it? Too much is at stake to rely on everyone's single-mindedness to determine for themselves that now is the time to pull the trigger..

..it's not the gun that scares me, it's the mind of the person behind it and just what is going thru it at the time. way too unpredictable!!!!

..using a gun is far too irreversible a decision.. essentially a "FINAL SOLUTION" to an otherwise solvable problem.

..similar to the thoughts of committing suicide.. final solution to a solvable problem..

..you can't fix a bullet to the head if it turns out to be the WRONG head!

..all that being said, i am also aware of the history of guns and the philosophy at work in your Constitution.

..smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 10:43 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SMY....

I totally agree with you and what you are saying.

I will tell you that as far as I go, pulling out my weapon IS a last resort.

I know it goes without saying, but some people don't really get it. My gun is not a toy. Carrying it is a HUGE responsibilty and I have to act accordingly. This is not a game, there are no do overs, and it could be my end as well. Carrying a gun, while also a deterant, can make me a target.

..who says when and where it is ok to pull out their gun and use it? Too much is at stake to rely on everyone's single-mindedness to determine for themselves that now is the time to pull the trigger..

this is so true...and as far as I am concerned anyone who wants to carry a gun should be required to complete hours on a range and a class on gun safety and situational awareness. I get this for free from DH, but I would have paid for it too.

It is all about being aware of the situation and surroundings before engaging.


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