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In the past month, I have felt hurt like I could not have imagined BUT my WH has done everything I have asked of him (STI testing, opening his computer or phone whenever I ask, checking in regularly, etc). We are spending a lot of time together (something we haven't done in the past couple of years) and talking a LOT. It's not been easy but it has been worthwhile. I don't know where this all will end but for now, I am looking towards the future with him.

I think that I usually come here when things are not going well or I'm feeling crazy anxious but today, I wanted to share that there are good days, at least for me.

Thank you.

I wish you the best, and thank you for sharing your moments of happiness brightening up this forum.

All of that is great...but why do you have to ask to see his phone and computer? It sounds as if you don't have the passwords.

I don't have the passwords; I haven't asked for them. Part of it is that if he is cheating, he's savvy enough to cover his tracks. This way, perhaps he will be less careful.

That's true..if they're going to cheat,they will find a way,no matter what kind of tabs you're trying to keep on them.

As long as you are ok with this kind of set up,then that's fine.

I am. I *think* that if I asked for his password, he would give it to me. There was another post on here about not wanting to live my life as a spy. If I am anxious (or totally freaking out) I ask for his computer and he hands it to me. So far, everything seems OK. As long as what is actually happening between us is working, I'm doing OK.