He came out with the details on OW#2 & 3 on his own finally, and that's one of the break throughs I've been waiting for. This is the first time that he's dislosed without being questioned to death.
I know you say you don't really care and don't want to know anything else, but if he's starting to confess, I would really take this opportunity to get everything you can from him so you can make an informed decision on what you want to do. You have to know what you are reconciling from. He can only start moving forward and start working on himself if he's honest about his past.
I think it's good for him too to finally be honest and get all of this off his chest. It means he's facing what he has done and trying to take responsibility for it. That is so very important for healing from this. It does neither of you any good for him to keep secrets from you. I know it's hard to hear, but it causes more disconnect in his mind and yours if he keeps these things hidden away. Let him tell you all of it.
Big huge hugs to you..
I think it's good for him too to finally be honest and get all of this off his chest. It means he's facing what he has done and trying to take responsibility for it.
No, not really. He's trying, but he is really stuck on the disclosure process. If I ask a specific question he answers as short as possible and never offers any additional information. He knows this is a problem for him. But it's killing me, because it's every day.
I have asked him at least 10x's "did OW visit you in the hospital when you passed out at the office in Chicago?" He swore, she never visited, just picked him up. She told me, of course she visited him...
If I confront him with the facts, he's honest most of the time, but he'd never come and admit that he lied and tell the truth on his own.
I am grateful that he's aware. He's doing well with everything else. If he keeps working hard, he'll get past this too. I'm just very impatient somedays and have a hard time being compasionate at times. He's a SA and is working hard to get help. I would just like to have 1 week with no new surprises.
He doesnt deserve you. Look after you and show him who's boss.
(((((Super big hugs to you))))))
Enjoy the graduation :-)