This post hit home with me. My WS is a SA and even though he has some serious issues and says he couldn't stop himself, he still admits that at the end of the day, he had a choice but gave into the compulsion.
I know we all want to believe it was out of their control because that hurts less, but no matter what is wrong with them, and let's face it, healthy people don't cheat, it doesn't excuse anything they did.
I am R because I love him, we have 20 years together, two kids, a lot of history which for the most part was great and he is embracing his recovery and doing all he can to recover and to make this up to me.
So, unless he cheats again or stops his recovery program, I did marry for better or worse and this is the worse part.When you hit bottom the only way out is up, so I am hoping for the better part now.