Still sit and wonder how I got here.
It's difficult to see your marriage (20+ years for me) reduced to a few sheets of paper. I often wonder how i got here too.
It's tough, that's for sure.
Post often. We're here for you.
I chuckle every time I read the word "Waffle", and thank you for it. Superb name.
This is one part that I finally did in honor of control. I simply could not bear thinking of myself as "Defendent", when I wanted the M and so badly. Also, I was haunted by the idea of not knowing when I would get the papers and it gave me panic.
It is surreal to see our names as "vs" because yes, it's the very same names...I can't stand looking at them and actually have a bunch of reading to, but don't know how to handle it emotionally.
I'm really sorry again, RRA. I'm waiting each day for that peace that people say descends upon us.
The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge
The hardest part was the court hearing. It took all of 20 minutes to dissolve my 21 year marriage.
Hang in there, rough. It'll get better
My counterclaim will be for different (not adultery) grounds, that I can prove if he denies. So basically, his claim is dismissed, and mine will be the ones standing.
It still sucks. I had made peace with our sep agreement. Then MOW and her BH file for dissolution, and suddenly he's rushing for the courthouse. He is a freaking puppet. What a moron. He is going to spend a shit ton in lawyer's fees for a contested divorce.
After filing, he was all friendly and chatty yesterday. I told him to screw off.
I have a new IC that I already like more than the old one. Yay. Divorce will now take as long as I can humanly (and ethically) stretch it out so I keep the IC.
[This message edited by roughroadahead at 5:37 PM, May 23rd (Thursday)]