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User Topic: Once an ass, always an ass...
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 23rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Boggles the mind. He cheated, repeatedly, on me. Yet I am willing to go through with a fast and easy dissolution just to get the dickhead out of my life quicker so I can move on. We have more debt than assets, so it is not like we have to haggle over much. Should be a 1-2-3. Yet he is starting the "well send me your information first and then I will give you mine because I am not giving mine to you" crap. Really? How old are you? Fucking grow up already! Geez. It's not like we don't know what other has! But let's not forget that Mr. Upstanding Citizen has been unemployed for almost a year and I have been (and continue to do so) supporting our DD16 in addition to paying ALL the bills. This fucktard is so fucking self-absorbed that he cannot see the forest for the trees! I am letting him fucking walk away, but he has to start these fucking juvenile games when it all comes out eventually anyway! WTF! God, I hope that karma bus runs over him, backs up, and runs over him about a dozen times...

Mr. Father-Of-The-Year doesn't even know that DD16 is currently on a road trip for sports (that I paid for) nor does he know she just got braces to correct for a genetic tooth defect (I am also paying for). He is SO in touch! Sadly, DD16 said when he texts her (once in a blue moon) she responds politely with "thank you" and what-not, but then she tells me about it and closes with, "why doesn't he just go away and leave me alone already..."

GGGGGrrrrrrr.....fucking shitbag...

Sorry, just needed to vent...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1183 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, May 23rd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


vent away.....we understand.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5256 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:04 AM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Never ever ever apologize for venting!

He IS a fucking shitbag. It's pathetic. I truly don't know how they can look at themselves in the mirror and like what they see. That is how delusional he is.

Bless your DD with the polite texts!! Good job momma! My kids choose not to respond at all. Yet he still doesn't get it.

You are doing awesome taking control of your life. Carry on Phoenix1!!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2268 | Registered: Oct 2012
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, their assholiness still takes me by surprise sometimes!! Just don't get it-- you cheated, I tried to keep it all together, bent over backwards to fix your mess, and when I finally give up and file for D - I become the bitch? The enemy? The root of all your anger??

WTF? Vent away girl. We get it. Sadly, we get it.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should consult with an attorney. If you live in a no-fault state, and you are the main breadwinner, he could ask for spousal support.

Sending strength and peace.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7738 | Registered: Aug 2005
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

New lease, SS is not a concern. Before he became unemployed he was earning more than me, and has historically always done so. It has been a major blow to his chauvanistic ego that I have been the bread winner for almost the past year. Not enough history for him to use against me, thank goodness. But when I cut him off completely after finding out about him siphoning off money to send to OW#1 for secret support for OC, that really cut him to the knees. Yet he has never once considered what his actions did to me. I became the bitch with serious control issues (and I should seek help, according to POS) when I did start to take control after all these years. What a fucking coincidence! What a major fucktard!!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1183 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup. "I didn't do it, you did." is like a life theme for these people!

Anything they don't like that results from their bad choices is something like spitefulness or vengeance in their mind, never "consequences".


Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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