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huRtZ413 (original poster member #39214) posted at 4:10 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
I get why BS would participate in HB I have been this past month but why would the WS ? I get they would want sex but its like a " I'm so in love I can't keep my hands off you or I can't stop thinking go you " I know that should be a good thing but why would the HB if they're aren't reclaiming they didn't lose the BS?
me_BW
him_WH
I'M ON THE FENCE
ladies_first ( member #24643) posted at 5:09 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
Waywards who thrive on ego kibbles and external validation get off, big time, on being the object of desire.
Pick me! Love me! Chase me! Text me! Fuck me!
Entitlement issues...
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:55 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
My W was remorseful, so she wanted to support me. If I wanted sex, she complied.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 5:56 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
MY WH enjoyed it because he was getting laid.
Funny....prior to dday,he was just oh-so-sure we were over(news to me)...after dday he couldn't keep his hands off me.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
hopefullromantic ( member #16652) posted at 5:59 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
My H went along with it at first partly because he was willing to do almost anything I asked. The last thing he wanted to do was reject me any further than he had already done with his A. It was kind of scary for him tho, as I was not at all behaving the way I usually did, and he didn't know what to think.
I think at some point tho both parties are reclaiming what they almost lost. You don't think a WS is fearful of losing their BS?
The emotions of both spouses are pretty overwhelming at that time. HB is a physical way to channel some of it.
It's not really a fairy tale 'til the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain
Reconciled
letitout ( member #38288) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2013
confused61e. Your post is like mine. My WH was glad to get some. He also told me he thought we were over and was surprised that we HB. He even emailed the prostitutes (yes he had to break contact with them because they were more like A. He just paid them. They were long term 1 year each) to say were were doing it sometimes 2 times per day. He was proud of that fact.
BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.
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