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User Topic: Did you get the OW side of the story?
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you need it for closure/peace of mind then do it. If this is to verify truth dont bother.
There is ALWAYS two sides to a story and rarely are they identical.
I got her side once her BH forced her too. I got a few truths such as she fucked my husband and for how long. Other than that it was a lot of embelishments and out right lies. She lied about the dumbest things all designed to be the most hurtful to both BS.
Some things she lied about i knew from phone records others were common sense.
I know that the real truth is somewhere between her side and WH side. Her actually being a bigger liar.
I dont regret hearing her side, it helped to get the conversations going with WH and it helped me to be able to believe him a little since i knew she was a bigger liar than him. It also helped me to see she was some pathetic mental loser that didnt have anything on me.

him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since the MOW blogs on AFF, I had the story in black and white. Like all the others on that vile site, she was looking for a "no strings attached" hookup. My FWH wasn't her first, just the one that lasted the longest.

Now she's just the piece of garbage that got tossed back into the cesspool.

BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't do it. She'll lie, lie, lie. My FWH ended things with the OW before I found out. I found out about his PA from her and she lied about a lot of it. I think she was hurting b/c he dumped her and wanted to hurt me (and therefore, him) in the process. Maybe she was trying to lie to get me to leave then he'd really be hurting. What a bitch!

D-day April 2005, R.
Me-BS 37
Him-FWH 37, 8 month EA/PA with coworker. Married 2 yrs at the time.
2 kiddos after D-day, Married 11 years.

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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't bother. I can't expect that I'd get truth from someone who knowingly set out to destroy my M and take my H.

There were times when the things coming out of XH's mouth had obviously been coached from OW. It was apparent that she was/is LOCO.

Can't imagine she'd not try to destroy me if she had the chance, if that makes sense. I don't think she's much different than any other OW.

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW butt dialed me from her phone about 14 months post DDay.

When I asked her how my number was in her list of contacts, she replied, " I have one of those phones that stores every number that it receives." My H told me she had an iPhone. She also told me that this was her first affair. H told me differently.

From those two statements, I knew she would not tell me the truth about anything. She gave me this long story and at the end I just said to her that my H lied to her. Her answers was "Yea, I know."

Her story was she was slut. She knew my H loved me and had no intention of leaving and was content being a HO

Married 32 years
OW-Mr. Ed ish! Seriously!
DDAY- 2/21/09
TT until 1/10/10
Working on R and doing well!!

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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


There were times when the things coming out of ws mouth had obviously been coached from OW. It was apparent that she was/is LOCO.

. THIS. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

same here
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I talked to OW#1 (technically #3). Without her, I would have never gotten the truth. He had told me that it was mostly online, that in 18 months they had sex 10 times or less and that they didn't see each other that much. When I talked to her, I got the real story. They were "engaged", he was leaving when the kids got out of HS, that he loved her and they were together every possible moment they could be. She stayed with him at his hotel when he was in town, and she traveled with him to other cities every chance she could. There was so much I would have never known it was ridiculous. She also outed #2 to me and he finally confessed to that. Then he confessed to #3. I think I would have spent months, even years before he would have come clean, if ever.

Contacting her was the best thing I could have done.

ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spoke to her during the A several times but every single time she responded that they were 'just friends' It was crazy making for me so I chose to stop contact..

Yes, I would love to hear her version of what went on, especially since she filed harassment charges against WH at the end of the A but like others have said, I wouldn't believe half of what she said so it's not worth it..

If you feel you want to hear what went on, do it.. but take everything she says with an open cynical mind

"Sorry" works when a mistake is made, but not when trust is broken. So in life, make mistakes, but never break trust. Because forgiving is easy, but forgetting & trusting again is sometimes impossible

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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...MOW told me I read into their texts too much... um okay I guess I was reading too much into "I love you and miss you so much," and lets not forget the x-rated ones where she described WH orgasming on her face. They were only friends though that kissed maybe once or twice. Forgot to add she also mentioned my WH really helped her in her situation (abusive marriage) and that he had seen her at her best and seen her at her worst

That's about all I got.

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 1:35 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]

BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

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