Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
Find a Local Couselor
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Elizablue (43208)

Just Found Out Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: so tired of the ups and downs
savvy
♀ Member
Member # 39102
Concerned  Posted: 4:03 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I should be in a happy enough place right now, my daughter is home from college, and I am excited to have her here. I just am feeling quite down right now. Yesterday when I spoke to husband he told me he feels like he is getting his shit together and is feeling better about things. I asked what that means for us. He said its a good thing but one step at a time. He only recently started IC. I felt like this was a positive sign but so worried about getting my hopes up. I am going out for pedicure and dinner with friend tonight hopefully it will pick me up. Just needed to post I am so tired of this rollercoaster ride!!


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
stilltrying2025
♀ Member
Member # 39145
Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((savvy)))

I have no words of encouragement.....I'm sorry! All I can say is hang in there girl At least your WH still talks to you, mine won't respond to me at all. I rooting for ya!

Enjoy your time with your daughter and with your friend tonight. That should help bring your mood up, at least a little bit!


Me: 38
WH: 43
DD: Thanksgiving Day, 2012
Status: Separated

Posts: 184 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Minnesota
savvy
♀ Member
Member # 39102
Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks stilltrying, yes it should bring my mood up. And I hope you find some peace soon also!

Life is too short for this kind of pain !!


me-BS (49)
him-WH (49)
2 children 21 and 19
Together 30 years
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
stilltrying2025
♀ Member
Member # 39145
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you savvy! I'm hoping for some peace soon too


Me: 38
WH: 43
DD: Thanksgiving Day, 2012
Status: Separated

Posts: 184 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Minnesota
kabee
♀ New Member
Member # 37816
Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. I get depressed when my son comes home from college and I'm not sure why. This is all so new for you. I just came out of the fog in April. I swear I don't remember the fall and winter of 2012. All I can tell you is that it gets better. IC medication and sleep. It is sooo painful. This website saved me and gave me perspective and hope. I had never been so scared and hurt but SI helped me understand and take it step by step. Hang in there.


BW 49
WS 50
Married 21 yrs.
2 yr LTA
Many other indiscretions
D-Day #1 9/14/12 D-Day #2 10/9/12
Gaslighting the whole time until final contact on 12/24/12
Tried R
Now trying D

"The grass is only greener where you water it."


Posts: 24 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: kabee
Pippy
♀ Member
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be good to yourself and get out lots. Don't call him to see how it stands. This just lets him know you are waiting. You have to make him worry that you are moving on without him. Let him hear you are having a life without him.

A cat only chases a mouse that is running away.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9584 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
Dawn58
♀ Member
Member # 37656
Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son came home for college a couple of weeks ago, it was good to see him and for a little while, I almost felt like myself.

I have no contact with the cheater - changed my phone numbers and have blocked his emails. It just hurts too much. I am not asking anyone how he is doing - hurts too much. I am not perfect with the NC - but the more I am able to do it, the less extreme are my ups and downs.

I am exhausted by this roller coaster ride and realized that some of my actions make it worse.

Keep yourself busy. I am not good about taking care of myself, have not had a pedicure in nearly 5 years!!! I isolated myself in the marriage, so am trying to go out and make some new friends.

I spent the last 8 years so focused on him, taking care of him, trying to give him the time and attention he required, that I lost myself. I do not want to give him anymore of me - so I am trying to focus on my own life. What do I like? What do I want my life to look like? Not at all sure what that is now, on the road of discovery. For the first time in my life, I can create the life that I want - no husbands to try to please, my son is away at school and creating his own life.


Separated, divorcing.

Posts: 438 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
Topic Posts: 7

Return to Forum: Just Found Out Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.