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User Topic: The "blahs" again.
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like I'm starting to slowly put my life back together, but it still feels really hollow sometimes. Not all of it. I feel great about what I do at work, for example, and I have some hobby type stuff that I like. But overall I don't have the sense of 'meaningfulness' that I used to have. And sometimes I do have trouble being interested in things.. really depends on the day. Going out usually feels good.

Sounds like someone describing really low grade depression, eh?

Anyway, this is just a small vent.. I'll just keep working on stuff. Just feeling a little flat today. Probably doesn't help that I have a cold.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look at it this way; if you were 'up' all the time, you'd burn yourself out. This is your psyche's way of chilling. You're going through a trauma, so don't expect to be 100% for a while.

You're probably doing a lot better than I did at your stage.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it. I sometimes wonder if I would get diagnosed as bi-polar, but I don't have the manic part. Just different degrees of up and down. My ups don't last as long as my down's though.


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DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, May 24th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you volunteer at all? Studies have shown that's one of the best ways to feel good about yourself.

What used to give your life meaning?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

phmh, volunteering is a good idea. I've been meaning to do some volunteering anyway soon.

I'll have to think about your question. It's 4 AM here and my brain's not fully on yet.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exercise helps too.
Ae you familiar with the SI concept of the "plain of lethal flatness"?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amazonia, I just read about the plain of lethal flatness after reading your post.

When it was cooler out (I live in a very hot place) I jogged a lot. Now I manage 2.4 miles a week of walking, but that's kind of a bare minimum figure. I think until I figure out something better I'm going switch to tracking steps on a pedometer to ensure a minimum level of exercise (because honestly, more of my walking happens indoors and at work than it does outside, and I think I could boost that gradually).


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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ideservebetter45
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel this way too.. sometimes I feel like a big loser..I feel sad. .I see my friends moving on doing family things. .I hate starting over

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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ideservebetter45, it is a little sad sometimes. I still feel a little cheated, when I'm completely honest with myself.

But it doesn't have to be that way forever.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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