Five years later, I'm having severe back/knee problems(chronic) and dealing with it alone.
That isn't what I signed up for.. damn him anyway !
I don't want the SOB back, hell NO !But this sucks..
I know there is many of us that have to deal with illnesses alone now, any advice or suggestions ?
I don't want to lean on my kids too much.
DD and family are busy with building a home, kids, and moving.
DSS has a newborn and sick stepson.
I know I will have them next to me if/when I have back surgery but that won't be awhile, I hope.
Just a whine of more that was taken because of the selfish prick that threw me and our marriage away.
Lean a little bit on a lot of people. Don't reject help when it offered. People really do want to help and will do it happily if you know what you need.
Unpacking - let someone move the heavier box. Need big items at the hardware store? Let someone help. I'm really bad at this.
You're such an amazing person. I bet you've got friends around you to help and support you. Let them.
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
All I can think to say is this: If your mom was in this position, or your stepmom - wouldn't you want her to let you know, to let you help her out?
Think about it. Big hugs meantime ((gma))
I dealt with a similar situation, though not all health related.
I supported XH through some stuff. Then he affaired on me and gosh darn it, I'm pissed he wasn't there for me like I was for him.
It DOES suck and what are you supposed to do? Who do you have?
Even with good friends and fam, it's not the same and dammit, we DID get gypped and it just isn't fair.
So I have no real advice other than to support your anger with the situation.
Were together 7+yrs, Ended R.
It's been a tough few weeks with work and dealing with back issues took it's toll. Then I was thinking how hard I have to work in the next few years so I can have any kind of financial security when I retired, made me more pissed at FT for taking what we worked so many years to achieve together.
I could have used a little spoiling so it pissed me off more that I lost any support I might have because of FT's NPD and infidelity.
I have a few days off so I will soak in the jacuzzi, stretch the muscles (I haven't been doing this and this is probably why it's worse right now)catch up on book keeping, and go watch the local airshow. Nothing too stressful.
Might even have a glass of beer or wine watching the airplanes.
Monday is a friend's 48th bday (so young,lol)we will have to celebrate.
Just knowing I have no work for a few days is making me feel better.
We hate FT and hope (and his shriveled balls) rot.
I hate that you aren't having the ending you worked for, but...you seem like you're doing well despite that.
Yay! FT's blow.
and his shriveled balls)
[This message edited by gma56 at 1:40 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]
It's like a parallel universe or something.
Thankfully where we are now is so much more, um, sane...
Keep up with the stretches and self-care. I've been slacking myself, so I know how it goes.
We have to stay on top of it now, nobody else will!
[This message edited by FaithFool at 9:59 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]