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User Topic: This is why I'm not dating...
brokenapart
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well, one reason anyway. I just cant' get into online dating. My DD talked me into signing up for one. From the profile of one of my "matches:"

you won't regret it. fine out for your self. i'm not going to be here long, some woman will take me from you.

Sorry, but no. Not only can't you proofread, but really? Do you think I'm gonna compete for you dude?

Blech.


me- BS
2 great kids
Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good


Posts: 10652 | Registered: Sep 2005
persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And God help that lucky woman....lol.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As icky as that is, it is nice that they so clearly identify themselves!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
brokenapart
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

the thing is, that attitude seems to be the norm among men on the dating sites around here. I refuse to be put back into insecure high school mode, especially for guys who don't even appear to be "all that." Where are all the nice normal people?


me- BS
2 great kids
Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good


Posts: 10652 | Registered: Sep 2005
persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where are all the nice normal people?

Excellent question. Right now I just don't have the energy to find them, lol. So I'm just sticking close to home for a while, though i may try out a few meet ups.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't say I'm actually online dating, but I am online browsing. I'm always super bummed when a really cute guy who seems to have a decent amount of stuff going for him, is a terrible speller or can't use grammar to save his life.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2524 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
brokenapart
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this particular guy didn't seem to have much going for him - other than a zip code that made me suspect he has a bank account. I don't get it.


me- BS
2 great kids
Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good


Posts: 10652 | Registered: Sep 2005
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I ask? Which one of the dating sites did you go on? I have found that the free one's have a bunch of trash on there. Not all of course but hey if you can get it free, cheap, and easy...

Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
brokenapart
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this is one of the pay sites.


me- BS
2 great kids
Divorced & living again.

"Let go or get dragged" - beaner

Life is Good


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw one the other day that said he's looking for someone who doesn't mind if he farts in front of her.

Dude, way to go...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17483 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw one the other day that said he's looking for someone who doesn't mind if he farts in front of her.


Being able to fart in front of your SO is important! I am still shy about farting in front of my SO. I swear the man never farts except in his sleep, it makes me so self conscious.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw one the other day that said he's looking for someone who doesn't mind if he farts in front of her.

This is exactly the kind of douchebag I hope to stay away from. To me, he should be appropriately embarrassed by his farts, and I should be appropriately accepting as everyone freaking farts and it's not a big deal. But to put it out there that you MUST accept that I'm gross? And you better let me get away with it, and I'm not going to be embarrassed about it? I mean, how many other things is that going to extend to? Why even put that kind of crap out there before you even meet someone? I think he's trying to say that he has a lot of faults, and he's not willing to work on them, and he's looking for another broken person that won't challenge him to be better.

Just my take on online dating anyway. There really is a lot of crazy out there, and the kind of shit they put out there in the beginning can really tell a lot about what kind of relationship partner he will be..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2296 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sure there are good, normal people out there. If you're on OLD long enough, you'll probably meet one. They just usually don't stay on the site very long, because they meet another good, normal person, and hop off. It's the weirdos who never meet anyone and thus never take down their profiles that you have to weed through.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13784 | Registered: Jul 2011
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will not be OLD when the time comes that I'm ready to date. After finding so many of STBX's OLD profiles on the legit sites (match, eharmony, chemistry, etc...) in which he lied about himself (saying he's divorced when he is STILL married), I realize that I could never ever ever trust what anyone said online. I'm going to do it the old-fashioned way.

I've reached a point where I can see myself wanting male companionship for a movie or a coffee. That's it. Nothing more. But I will need to meet that man in person and vet him before buying that movie ticket. It's too easy to lie online.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9810 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Gr8Lady
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Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, May 27th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lots of liars is what the sites should be called.
Since I know for a fact during our marriage, my WS was on all the major sites. Profile description complete fabrication. He actually became upset when one of his dates reported him for being married. He said she was mad he didn't like her. Yeah dream on...she probably saw him for what he was, 15 years older and 40 lbs overweight



BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 618 | Registered: Jul 2012
phoenixrivers
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, May 27th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Coming from the male perspective, I'd say pretty much the same thing as brokenapart. I'm a successful, professional man, use good grammar, don't ask to fart in front of people and try to be respectful of the women I've responded to on the pay site I'm on. I take the time to describe myself, tell a little about my life and ask respectfully if they'd like to correspond and get to know me.

After numerous no responses and no shows for meetings, I'm getting paranoid and feeling bad about myself. So the online dating thing is just as difficult for men as it is for women.

phoenixrivers


Me: xBetrayedBF (xBBF)
Her: xWaywardGF (xWGF)
TT: 12/21/12
Splitsville: 1/6/13
DDay: 7/20/13
Done: 8/16/14
"Nobody knows anybody...not that well." Tom Reagan, "Miller's Crossing"

Posts: 139 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: New Orleans, LA
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