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User Topic: First post d day date night
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, May 25th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What would you recommend as a great first date post d day as a R couple? I want something that keeps us talking. The husband wants us to talk more.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

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SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What about a museum, or an Art show?

What do you want to talk about?
Yourselves or just ralking more in general, getting to know each other better?

Dinner or coffee in a busy location where you can people watch.

Do you guys dance?

A picnic?

What are you guys into????



FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1130 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Low key and conducive to reconnecting and conversing from your hearts - walk in a park on a weekday?

Well, that's what I would do. What counts most is what you and your H want to do.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9740 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since we have 6 kids we don't really do a lot together other than watching tv/movies. I'd love to go on a date to my fave coffee shop before it closes next month. He would like to go out to dinner or gambling.

I"m just hoping for a good time. We went on a 'date' a few months back and it was horrible. He didn't even talk to me.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have 3 kids 5 and under. Dinner alone is always nice. We also love to go dancing. I think our first post DDay date was a night at home. He got a sitter for the kids and we just hung out together.

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RunningBlind
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that's great you guys are taking that step.

I"m just hoping for a good time. We went on a 'date' a few months back and it was horrible. He didn't even talk to me.

^^ was this during his A? :(

i agree with the other posters, as long as it's something you guys want to do, and it gives you the chance to reconnect.


me: BS, early 30's
him: WS, early 30's
2 young kiddos

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cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, May 26th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes that date was. Thinking back it might have been around when he first told me about his new BFF. I didn't find out until last week that the had sex twice.


Ugh I want to vomit thinking about it.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
guarded
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, May 27th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We needed something to do during the date so less pressure to just talk, which lets us talk more. How about shooting pool or miniature golf?


In R? But how do you know it isn't another pack of lies?

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