We left the house Sat. afternoon with not much of a plan but fully intent on enjoying our time sans kids. And we did!
Got a great deal on a hotel via hotwire, had a delish lunch, hair cut for H and style for me, checked into the hotel and just relaxed. Okay, okay, there was some "what not" goin' on which was all goooood!
We had a delicious Italian dinner and talked so much! My H acknowledged that even though he thought he was present for us while in the A - good provider, great dad, he now realizes he was NOT fully there with us, the rest of his family and some of his friends. He realizes not only the depth of his lies but the breadth too - how far reaching they are. He feels sad about this but I reassured him that the fact that he sees this and says it out loud is healing to both of us. I thanked him for sharing. I also apologized to him for the times in our marriage when I was not friendly, interested in him. The times when I was pushing him away. He thanked me for that.
We grabbed a nightcap at a fun new spot around the corner and made our way home. More "what not", lots of laughter and then sleep!
He tells me I am beautiful and that he loves me every day.
We capped off the next day with a great breakfast and a drive to see the ocean. We hadn't been to this tourist site in 20 years...it was a lovely time and I wanted to share it with you.
We are in full R with him leading the way.