I have been doing my best to not talk about it. H has not said anything to me either.
shortee, why are you not talking about it?
The first "antiversary" is a tough one. On one hand we dread its coming and on the other, we need it to be acknowledged. The way you have been feeling is perfectly natural and I think it is important to talk about it.
The first year is such a horrible crazy time. When we look back, so much has happened but we don't feel all that much better about the twist our lives have taken. We have just learned to live with it a bit better.
One year after dday is a good time to take stock. To look back and see how far we have come but also to realize that we are just beginning the journey.
Of course you are still angry and hurt.
If anyone thinks that a year will make a huge difference, I would say they are wrong.
Don't hide these feelings from your WS. It sounds like you need to talk about it. He may need to as well.