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inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 7:10 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
I took a half day on Thursday and all day Friday off, so I could have a really long weekend. I came in to work this morning to find someone had gone through every stack of paper on my desk. Nothing was where I left it.
Checked with my boss to see if he had been looking for something he couldn't find. And he said he had been putting things on my desk, but not going through anything.
Turns out the office drama llama took it upon herself to "organize" my desk for me. She was just "being helpful" she says. 
passive aggressive, nosy-ass bitch!! she's lucky I didn't show her where she could stick those file folders of hers.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:24 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Oh no she didn't!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
luv_lost ( member #24621) posted at 7:35 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
BW (me) 31
WH 33
DS1 8 yrs.
DS2 1 yr.
Anniversary 6/09/04
DDay 6/27/09
Wedding 3/15/12
DDay2 5/5/13
presently working towards...well i don't know anymore...
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 7:40 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Get a sentry turret:
http://www.thinkgeek.com/product/ee85/
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 7:55 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
idkam ( member #18375) posted at 9:24 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Grrr! Take her red & black pen.... 
2015 It's time to get Fit, Fine, and more Fabulous. Come and join me.
Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 9:47 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Just wanted to thank StillGoing--
I've wasted an hour and $100 on the ThinkGeek website.
End t/j
BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 9:51 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Well... I guess it's good I didn't link to Games Workshop then. 
abbycadabby ( member #27428) posted at 11:52 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2013
Oh no! My desk is organized chaos... It would make me super angry if someone messed up my system.
inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 1:17 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Oh no she didn't!
oh yes, she did. and then she spent the rest of the day pouting because I didn't jump with joy over the "nice" thing she did for me. or maybe it was because I was noticeably pissed off.
shit, even my boss mentioned that drama llama would have thrown a fit if someone did that to her desk. she doesn't even like it if we pick up stuff from the printer that she printed.
so I'm sure, somewhere in her P/A head and heart, it's all my fault for not understanding she was just trying to help. 
thank god this day is over, and this week is a short one.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 3:58 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
It got so bad at my job that everything was organized into folders. I had about 10 of them packed to the gills that got locked in a drawer before I left. Every morning I'd take them out to my desk area and every night they got locked in my drawer. I got tired of people going through my work and losing my paperwork.
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 4:53 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Perhaps my room isn't a neat and organized as it could be, but damnit, I sure as hell know where everything is!! FTB!!
Rollercoaster ( member #1298) posted at 7:02 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Oh I'd be pissed! I don't work very neatly but I do know where everything is and I do have a system. 
Me BS 59, WS 59
Reconciled
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 3:43 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
I'm getting ready to return to my workplace tomorrow, and I have the same problem - I sit in a semi-public area, so all kinds of people that I DON'T KNOW are at my desk, all the time.
This time, before I went on vacation, I literally took everything on my desk and locked it up in my coat closet. There isn't even a piece of paper laying around. The worst thing that'll happen is that my computer will be turned off (another pet peeve of mine, but I can't lock that up too, heh).
Let's see them try and use the stamp pad all over my desk calendar now. (Yes, this really happened.)
BS (me):44 (now 52) WS (him):42 (now 50)Married 3.5 years, together 5.5 D-Day #1 - 2/10/16 #2 - 2/20/16 #3 - 5/27/16 Divorced 6/12/17 One daughter, 9, the light of my life. Finally happy.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:17 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
If she's not a supervisor or directly involved in your job, I would make a complaint to HR. Otherwise, lesson learned--everything gets put away and locked up before a planned vacation.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
NotDefeatedYet ( member #33642) posted at 4:56 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
You need finger print dust. Put it in some key places when you leave, but wipe it off when you return. It's really hard to see, but if you get it on your oily hands, it turns black. Imagine the nosy office person with a big black ring around one of their nostrils they are completely unaware of.
"It's a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart."
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:56 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
osxgirl ( member #8795) posted at 10:00 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
I would have to use a Jumpo Trainer hidden under some papers everytime I left my desk.
http://www.jumpotrainer.com
[This message edited by osxgirl at 4:01 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]
inconnu (original poster member #24518) posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
so today I found some new stuff (from last Thursday afternoon after I left) in the middle of some of the papers I'd on my desk for weeks.
seriously, who the fuck organizes papers, puts them in a folder, but puts the new, urgent stuff in the middle?
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 10:43 AM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
I love the finger dust stuff. I say do it.
What baffles me on this thread is why it is okay for another person/people to go through you stuff. I thought that wasnt allowed...well, if someone else needed papers you had but that person would let you know but note or verbal.
Why didnt the boss tell drama llama to leave your desk alone and go do her own work? If she has time to "straighten" your desk she needs another project...or they dont need her.
Since she fouled up your work can you take her into the bosses office and let her know she needs to keep her hands off your work
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