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User Topic: Being Humble...
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Fallen)))

I knew you would remember Maureen too...she was such a kind and loving woman, I miss her almost every day

So good to see you!!!

I'm glad this post has helped others in here, its important to remember where we once were and where we are now


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197026 | Registered: May 2002
Fallen
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maureen was a huge help to me in healing, as were you, DS. You two gave me hope that it was possible to change all the F-ed up stuff about myself and to actually find some sense of self worth out of something that had made me feel more worthless. So thanks to you both and so many other lovely people here- BSes and WSes alike, my H and I are almost 10 years past dday and doing great.


You can't heal what you won't feel.

"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just love you Fallen It warms my heart to see how happy you and your H truly are.

Here's to many more years!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197026 | Registered: May 2002
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/J

Hi Fallen

end T/J


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 36788 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Fallen
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi WH5. Say hi to your lovely wife for me.

Love you too, DS.


You can't heal what you won't feel.

"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."


Posts: 23478 | Registered: May 2004
floridaredman
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great Post DS

ETA:
Hi Fallen!! *waving like Forrest Gump*

[This message edited by floridaredman at 9:31 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


The simplest thing can be the hardest thing to do....FRM

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Florida
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FM!!! There you are...you have been sorely missed around here! We sure could use your wisdom if/when you have time


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197026 | Registered: May 2002
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No stopsign, so I hope its ok if I, a BS, post.

Wow DS what an awesome post.

I think that really loving someone else, and ourselves, means putting our ego aside. With ego comes separation from someone else,judgement, a wall between them & you, & it hinders true intimacy.


together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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floridaredman
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sure DS! I will begin posting more I can always make time for SI!


The simplest thing can be the hardest thing to do....FRM

Posts: 2481 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Florida
Fallen
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Howdy FRM!


You can't heal what you won't feel.

"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."


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BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you shared that post, DS. I need the reminder now and then that the universe doesnt spin around me.

Glad to see you, Fallen and Floridaredman! (waves)


{Him}FBH - 43 (WifeHad5)
{Me} FWW - 43
2 kids 7 & 12
Reconciled :)
Beauty and folly are old companions.--Benjamin Franklin

Posts: 10627 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Midwest
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BR)))

You know how much I love you..you and your H are always such an inspiration to so many here


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197026 | Registered: May 2002
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I rediscovered this, this morning.
It's a post I think about often.
Thought I'd give it a BUMP!!
Good stuff here


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh gosh, thanks for reposting... so true - the number one ingredient for recovery I think - humility!


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4696 | Registered: Dec 2010
JustDesserts
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a lesson in humility and being humble and remembering to be patient.

Should be on the stone tablet of Wayward's Ten Commandments.

Good bump!


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Deeply,

As a RBS this post was a wonderful thing to read. I often ask myself why my H did this horrible thing, why he would want to risk his family, me, his integrity to have an A. Having worked together very hard over the last year at the things that helped create our new environment I have come to realize that my hubby had become something that in no way resembled the decent loving man he had been all his life. Realization that not only he but I were both saddened by the state of our marriage was eye opening to him. What made it worse was that I pointed out that I had many opportunities to open the A door throughout the same time but NEVER did.

His humbleness has returned thanks to some good MC/IC and honest, complete and intimate conversations between us. It has been his ability to come back to Center within himself that has kept me trying hard even when the pain of all of this continues to sting my heart.

Thank you for posting this. I am going to print it out and let m read this.

T

[This message edited by TxsT at 9:16 AM, August 29th (Thursday)]


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


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