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User Topic: criminal defense attorney update
dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted to thank those who responded to my other post regarding getting a criminal defense attorney. And I'm sharing what happened just in case it can help someone else in a similar situation.

I did talk to, meet with, and retained a criminal defense attorney and THANK GOD I did. I didn't realize the seriousness of the situation. After all it's just a stupid fire extinguisher and keys!

Due to what the "stolen" property is worth, the case is a felony class c. I could have walked in tomorrow; have my rights read; give my statement; and I could have been processed!! WTF?!?!

So now my attorney will write a letter on behalf of me and this letter will go with the detectives report to the prosecutor. Then it is up to the prosecutor to decide what to do.

It has been a mentally exhausting day. I wish there was a Starbucks in my house. Thank you for your support and advice!! I seriously would not be where I'm at emotionally had it not been for all of you!! Love, dmari


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2268 | Registered: Oct 2012
hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Hang in there.

The crazy that these people create is horrific...


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dadgum! I'm glad you got a defense A, too! That's scary! So now that you know what your STBX is aiming for, you'll be even more vigilent, right?

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 11:34 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9814 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Take2
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow - so glad you followed through dmari!! Wear your bitch boots! Oh - and F.T.G.!!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4127 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your WH is just an immature, mean dick to put you through all of this....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, May 28th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not immature and mean; he's criminally abusing is authority.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
courageous
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Default  Posted: 2:30 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad to hear you will be protected with your defense attorney. I'm so sorry you have to do that. Best wishes in court! Crush him! Don't let him get away with abusing his powers like that.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


Posts: 651 | Registered: Jan 2012
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he's criminally abusing is authority

Yea, ^^that too.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8073 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so glad you got a defense attorney!

FTG. In the asshole with a rusty chainsaw.


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really glad that you got an attorney. Fuck that guy for abusing his power and being a doosh.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love you guys

This incident has reminded me to always be vigilant. I'm in the process of accepting that this is my "new normal" ~ not living in fear but being vigilant (I like that word).

I realize that sometimes I "minimize" the bullshit he pulls. I used to blame it on mental illness because it's easier to accept than acknowledging he just truly is a selfish, delusional, cowardly, stupid, entitled POS!!

Thank you for handing me my bitch boots!!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2268 | Registered: Oct 2012
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

vigilant is a good word.

I hope that like most bullies, when you show up prepared to fight back, aggressively defend yourself, and if appropriate counter attack! he'll find someone easier/more fun to target.

Remember: your emotional response is fuel. This was the most valuable thing I learned to do: NO RESPONSE. I practiced the vaguely distracted, disinterested, bored response.

Anything like fear, relief, worry, anger, aggravation, frustration, sadness, ANYTHING like this brings a new wave of attack.

(((hugs)))

AND THANK YOU for the update!!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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